[annaandtheking2000]

Hi. Me and my husband have a problem. We are both 33 yrs old have been married 10 years. About 4 yrs ago we ended up in a threesome with a girl who was a friend. She was in a relationship as well. The three of us decided for me and her to do that at her house. My husband started to back out and I went ahead with it against him asking me to stop. As you are obviously shaking your head right now, I already know. I tried to bring her back over and keep it up with my husband but he understandably wanted nothing to do with it. So I stopped. I only went outside of him 1x. But thats all it takes. This was also wayyy out of character for me and I was having some other problems as well. I had recently been put on Effexor xr and was having all the side effects. My husband convinced me to stop taking it and I did and was back to normal in a short time. But the damage was done. We tried to wean away from our friendship with the other couple (she had lied to her boyfriend, he knew nothing of her at our house). A year later they got married and she asked me to be her maid of honor. ha ha. I did it. My husband almost left me. Keep in mind that he is a very sexually active man, and has been up until this, very open with his sexuality and has been outside of our relationship without consent. He never lied and always has felt remorseful. I never lied either and was just trying to play with him. He has not had a day go by since then that this has not messed with his head. We talk about this daily. He feels this is a trust issue for him. I have never felt closer to him. Our marriage is forever. We are all about our relationship. We need to know how to get this out of the way. We both love each other very much and pushed open too many doors. Nobody has gone anywhere without the other since trying to gain trust but this still remains. What to do?