I have no idea what your girls will say but my feeling is if they have been friends with you two for a while and haven’t made it obvious they have a romantic desire for you then maybe that is a clue. You guys are not getting “vibes’ to move the relationship in this direction and as a result you are sensing the outcome of rejection.
Rejection is just that, rejection. No big deal. It doesn’t make you a worthless person. It’s just not the right girl or the right time. Perhaps you smoke cigarettes and she doesn’t.
Maybe it’s a religious difference. Some things can stop a girl dead in her desire for you. For example, smokers. I can be friends with a guy that smokes but no way do I want to be intimate with him. Cigarette breath, UGH! Total sexual turn off and if we lived together my house would smell like smoke. His energy level would be so much less than mine, etc…. So friends, yes but for a romantic relationship, no. See what I mean?
But, it’s really up to you and if you don’t ask you may never know. Just think the situation in advance, if they do reject you are you still interested in friendship? Will she be uncomfortable around you after? Lots to think of.
I have had many guys that I have friendly relationship with ask me but I can handle telling them no. usually, they can’t and after they never want to talk to me again.
Hugs and Hissessss,
Maria
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