[Kevin in Denver]

My wife and I have been married for 8 years now and we have 2 kids. I love my wife and my kids very much, but my wife is addicted to online video games. She plays every moment she can and it has gotten increasingly worse over the last couple of years. Now, she is always up a lot later than I am and has no interest in sex. We have sex once every several weeks or couple months. I pretty much have to beg. And, because of that, even when we do have sex, it's not passionate. It's just going through the motions. No matter how hard I try, that is where it is. She is very resistant to the idea of seeking help. She is convinced there is nothing wrong.

Anyway, that is my situation. After many months of pursuing ways to fix this situation to no avail and much resistance from the wife, I'm at a desperate point. I love my family too much to ever think about getting a divorce, but at the same time, I have needs that are not being met. The thought of having an affair gets me really excited. Am I just delusional to think that an affair could actually save my marriage? If I found someone in a similar situation somehow and we just helped each other through these hard times we're having?

Please don't condemn me or judge me. I've tried being the patient loving husband for several years and I'm at my wit's end. I feel like if I don't have some real sexual attention I'm going to explode. I'd like to try this as opposed to getting a divorce. I want to keep my family in hopes that my wife will eventually come around and leave this crazy addiction to her games.

Thanks for any help/thoughts.

^ Kevin