It sounds like she got scared by the fact that you mentioned becoming more serious. I don't think she meant to hurt you, but she jumped to the conclusion that more distance needed to be put between you guys to get you off the bf/gf track. Sometimes people get put into a mode of anxiety from hearing that their friend wants to become more, even with reassurances that being just friends is okay.
I'd say talk to her about it. Seriously. But don't approach it in a way that might seem like an attack.
For instance:
"Hey, I was just thinking about something. During those weeks that we weren't talking, I got the feeling that maybe I had made you feel uncomfortable by bringing up the girlfriend-boyfriend thing. And hey, I might be wrong about it, but I still want to say that I really love the relationship we've got going, and if you're feeling weird at all about anything, I want you to let me know. Okay?"
Use "I" statements rather than "you" statements. And try to be sympathetic. How she reacted to the situation was wrong, but it's easily fixed.
Hope this helped!
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