[The Beautiful Kind]

Sure, your friend may have suffered abuse all her life from her cruel mother.

But maybe BDSM is a way for her to take OWNERSHIP of her sexuality and do things ON HER OWN TERMS.

It is a way for her to harness that negative energy and get something good out of it - release, therapy. She can also close the circle - let's say her mom was mean to her and left her emotionally hanging. In BDSM she can be treated mean, and then the person domming her can then treat her with compassion, and end the scene on an intimate or kind note.

Finally, in BDSM the sub is in control. It's the Dom's job to give her what she wants, and to keep within her limits. BDSM should be SSC - safe, sane and consensual.

It is fun roleplaying, a good emotional and physical outlet. Mutual respect and trust is paramount in making it work.