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Originally Posted by scarbowl
Don't wait - that's victim mentality. Take some control in your life. There are a lot of women in your college and someone there would be delighted to go out with you.
Read some dating tips from this site and others. Make sure you are practicing your good manners - at the table, when picking her up, etc. Ask about her - don't talk too much about yourself. And DON'T bemoan your lack of dating history. DON'T sound as though you've been alone and lonely and desperate for a date. DON'T sound depressed. That's the surest way not to go out again.
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Right on Scarbowl, on all counts!
Jojo - Take charge of your life and decide this is going to change. Today. Get out there, meet women, get comfortable around them.
Meet women without trying to date them, just as people. That way you'll get comfortable around them. And being comfortable with yourself around others - completely at ease and confident - is very attractive to women.
Good looking women in particular are very accustomed to guys being shy and uncomfortable around them, sometimes to the point of where they can't even talk straight. So a guy that's comfortable around them suddenly stands out as someone that's "interesting".
I can walk into a room of people I don't know and feel at ease and comfortable, or I can walk up to most anyone and chat about most anything. That's where you want to be - secure and confident in yourself and who you are. It certainly wasn't always like that, but it really boils down to getting comfortable and secure with yourself.
The trick here is to get over the shyness, around people in general, and then particularly around women. Make some new friends, join some groups or clubs in your area.
Meetup.com is great for finding interest group clubs in your area - join 10 of them. Get comfortable around diverse groups of people.
Toastmasters is an international organization for people to become confident public speakers. They meet weekly or monthly just about everywhere and the meetings are usually free. Something like that will help you with your confidence.
Take a step back from trying to find the perfect girl to date - instead work on the shyness issue. That will make a world of difference for your dating success.
Give it a try, let us know how it goes!
Dan