[Dennis in San Jose]

Love, and sex, are two-way streets, but it looks like you, your guy and the previous posters are going only one way. What about him giving you oral sex? That should give him pleasure. I know anything I did that gave pleasure to my woman, whether I was young or old, gave me pleasure. (Yes, I'm an older man.)
If you haven't, you should let him fondle you: breasts, then genitals, while making out. (If you love him and he does it at all right that should be a big turn-on.) That should lead right in to you wanting and his giving you oral sex. Then just lean back and enjoy it, while you direct him to your clitoris for his tongue and your G-spot for his finger.
Enjoy.