Definitely agree with OverKnight and Tankman101, plan this out first.
Can't you just find some guy you'll never see again?
I know where you're coming from; most people when they first accept this type of a fantasy, want to do it almost "in hiding" so nobody can find them again later. we get questions like "where can we meet a hot girl that we'll never see again?".
OK, there is nothing whatsoever weird of bad or in any way wrong with your fantasy. In fact it's very, very common. You're actually in great luck - there are WAY more couples looking for a single girl than there are single girls looking for them. But single men looking for couples? Oh man, look out below!
That puts you (and your husband) - you two should be doing this together as a couple, communicating completely if you want this to work out well - in a great position. You can pretty much pick and choose from a multitude of intererested single men.
Where to find THE single man for you?
But be smart and safe about it. Sign up to
Adult Friend Finder (or even SDC.com), fill out a profile, and be very very specific about what you're looking for.
The minute you check that little box saying you're looking for a single man, look out! You could well have your picks narrowed down to a list of 10 "good" candidates in a few days. One of the great benefits of these sites is that you'll find reviews other people have posted to these guys' or couples' profiles - think of it as "references".
How do you meet them?
Be sure to pre-screen these folks. Exchange an email or two, then something interactive like Instant Messaging or phone. Make sure they're sane and harmless. Then go through the extra minor hassle of meeting for a brief 15 minute coffee / glass of wine to see 1. if there really is chemistry and 2. if you're all comfortable with one another. In fact, you can have 3 or 4 of these mini-meetings in the same evening - make it a fun event with your husband to "interview candidates".
Bottom line - depending on how your screening process works out, you should have one or two "keepers" in less than a week. Then, and only then you go for the actual fantasy.
Oh, and once you find a few playmates that you like, you'll definitely be meeting them again. It'll be well worth the time you spend up front to find the right ones.
Another quick tip: don't spend a lot of time and effort flirting with these guys before you meet them and know if you really like them in real life. Save that for the "keepers", that way you're not disappointed after you meet someone and they're "not what you hoped".
I know this sounds a little "overcomplicated" compared to what you were hoping for - but since this is your first time in this type of a situation it really pays to be smart and safe about it. Get off on the right foot and this can be a great adventure for you and your husband, and will be great fun. Enjoy!
Let us know how it goes!!
Dan