I see several warning signs in your description of him. If you remain with him, you should not be surprised if he remains "emotionally distant." Perhaps that is even a reason for his divorce.
It's easy to want to stick with something once you have an investment in it. But perhaps you should consider having much less contact and not visiting him, and making an effort to develop other relationships.
If this is a good relationship for you, he will be there in 6 months and you can pick it up then. It doesn't have to be now. Give him some time to adjust to not being married and all those other things you mentioned. But don't be with him during this adjustment - wait for six months and then try again.
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