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Old 06-23-2008, 04:58 AM
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Amen to modernsavage and Dan and Jen.

Coulda, woulda, shoulda. You're losing sleep over something totally irrelevant and the only way to asset yourself in this situation is to stop thinking about what she did with some other guy and start enjoying the sex and gaining confidence in the bedroom.

I hate to throw a monkey wrench in the works but what if she's not 'the one' and you have to be with other sexual partners? Are you only going to be with virgins? Are you gonna lose your mind with every woman wondering what she did?

I suggest that you drop the issue as you are dooming your relationship. Complaining about this now is like closing the door after the horse has bolted. You knew where she'd been before, so if you were that concerned about you not being her first, why go there and give you and her a hard time over things?

Lay back and enjoy yourself. You can't change a damn thing that has happened so the energy you're expending is futile and could be better spent pleasuring her and yourself!
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