[micmacmel]

It all depends on what you two have to begin with. Can you communicate your feelings, longings, fantasies - Have you tried. Let her know with everything you got that it is frustrating the crap out of you and you need SEX. You need to feel needed. It sucks when needs aren't being met but don't give up on your spouse too easily. If my husband would have let me know that he was thinking about seeking sex from someone else my interest definately would have perked up. Now it is too late - you didn't exactly find what he was looking for in this other person although he got the relief that he needed at the moment. Now he has no trust from me, calls all the time nagging him, guilt, contantly trying to make things right; however, the one thing he did gain but would have gotton it without having to do all the other things is wild passionate sex. Anywhere, anytime, any position. We play out each other's fantasies and listen to what the other one wants and do our best to accommodate - but he will never have me look at him the same way I once did. I respected him so much that I was turning away offers from people and now I'm not so sure what I would do. I want sex from someone else so bad that it is killing me and he knows it. Surprise, surprise - he comes home on time now and refuses a lot of his overtime in fear that I may make this a reality and not just me toiling with the idea. Too bad we don't live closer to one another, we might have been able to work something out. Life is suppose to be enjoyable, but as you take a moment of happiness think about what the future holds and how much more miserable it can be. If your wife is the kind that want accommodate your needs, my advice to you is do it - but if you love her, don't ever EVER tell her. Keep me posted on how things work out between you two!

Later - Mel