Remember rule one...
One of the fundamental rules of relationships is that you can't change other people. You can influence them but you can't change who they are. My best friend caught his wife cheating. I'm a therapist, so he came to talk to me. I decided to be a friend, not a therapist, and I told him I didn't think he could ever get over it. He chose to end the marriage and later met a great girl who was much better to him than his wife ever was.
I'm not saying cheating is the automatic end of a relationship. Among couples who reach the point of divorce and stay together, in five years 85 percent of them describe themselves as happily married. After there's been an affair, only thirty percent feel that way in five years.
I think you need to look at why the two of you are together. Do you really think there's hope for this relationship or are you staying together because of children, joint property, social stigma, etc.
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