[Dan And Jennifer]

Man, I hate to be the wet blanket here (not sure anyone'll believe it either) but hold that thought a moment.

Beagle's right on, most of the "horror stories" you hear are from people going in unprepared... and that can be said about most any topic, not just swinging. :-)

The best advice we can give a couple going to a swinger club for the first time is to go there and enjoy the music, have a few drinks, and get comfortable with the environment. And stop there.

Until you know the environment, know what to expect as far as people who frequent it, and get comfortable with the establishment in particular, I'd stay well away from any sexual activity. ESPECIALLY since you guys are very new to anything like that.

I know the idea is special for your birthday, which is awesome - so do it - but consider this a multi-step process because it is. So you and your wife go check out a couple of clubs over a few weekends, until you think you've got the "right" one. Then go there another time or two until you have some comfort level with what actually happens there.

Non-swingers think of swinger clubs as massive orgies, which is really in most cases very far from the truth. They're usually tamer than those crazy college bars and way safer on average, especially for the girls who in the swinger scene basically call the shots.

So, keep the excitement, and have fun with your wife on this... enjoy watching other couples get close, maybe even have sex of some sort, but stay your ground until you're comfortable and know what to expect.

Let us know what you think - maybe even you and your wife both - and write back to let us know how it went!