[milo from memphis]

I would like to thank you for your reply. I figured after talking to several people that that might be it but no one has gone into such detail. I also think you are spot on but the problem is that I've tried to relax a bit and just go with it what happens happens but i still have the problem. We have even tried alcohol, in moderation of course, just to relax me a bit, never done anything stronger I really dont like the thought of taking any drug even prescriptions for anything unless its absolutely necessary. I've completely accepted that this might just be how things are going to be but what concerns me is the way my girlfriends have reacted. Its a problem because they have associated me not orgasming with me not wanting them, with both this relationships I've had this phrase thrown at me, and it hurts. But now with your explanation and advice if i cant help this at least i can let them read what you said and maybe it'll show them its not that i dont love them its that I care about them to much.

Thank you