Thanks for the answers. Can be something true in it. What H.dutch describes is the strategy I follow when I apply for a new job or an appartment. Little bit strange to use it in relationships. It makes me feel insecure and leaves these questions: What have I done wrong? When did it go wrong? Don't you owe somebody you have been close to a little bit more of an explanation?
Just have to add that I don't think it was only telling "what I wanted to hear". I know the difference between a man who wants to impress and a man who is really beeing involved. I'm sure they were.
I have tried both beeing clingy and played hard to get - with no big sucess. Mostly we loose contact and when we meet by surprise they are not relaxed and sometimes it seems like they are not "over it" or they are still interested. When I try to transform the relation in a friendship (after some time) it doesn't work.
I just don't get it why they don't stick in the "relation" a little bit longer. And find out if it could be something for real.
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