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Old 01-13-2009, 09:21 AM
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Why not take what she's saying at face value? She doesn't want emotional ties right now. We both know that that usually means "I don't want emotional ties with you." At any rate, she said "No" and you need to respect that and move on. Paradoxically, when she sees you moving on that may make you more attractive.

Be alert to the "I don't want him but I can't stand for anyone else to have him" trap. We've all been in that relationship; and if you haven't you will be at some point.

FYI, in college there was a girl I tried every way to get somewhere with, with no luck. A couple of years later, she saw me out with another girl and came up and shook my hand and pressed her number into my hand. I'm not saying that's what's happening here, that's just a potential pitfall of the "friend zone."
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