[Dibiase]

Originally Posted by FreezeFlame

Wow, this is why humanity makes me want to cry sometimes.

First of all: Never be ashamed of who you are or what you enjoy.

The way that girl reacted wasn't right. It was fine that she was a bit put off by the whole fisting thing, as it would come as a shock, but the fact that she told a personal fact about you to others without your permission was very tasteless on her part.

My advice to you is as follows:

As far as finding a good sexual relationship goes: Try finding a girl who seems very playful and a bit kinky. She'll be more likely to try fisting you than some prissy little thing who feels uncomfortable with anything but the missionary position.

For your reputation and such: Try to remember that what some think is not what everyone thinks. There is a reason for the existance of the statement: "Whatever floats your boat". Try to make it not seem so awkward if people act weird about it. 99% of the time they are simply caught off-guard and have this idea in their head that you're some pervert who they could never relate to. If someone is acting awkward toward you because of your sexual interest, just try and make light of it. [re]Affirm them that you are a good guy and make them feel more comfortable around you by laughing at yourself when the time is good.

I really hope I've helped even slightly. Just try to feel better about yourself, because you've been hard on yourself because of this lately.

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P.S: I find that a lot of fetishes link to other ones simply through psychological similarities.

For example: I have recently discovered that I love the idea of my partner wearing a hat to shroud their eyes with shadow during sex. This links to the mystery aspect of my playrape fetish, and the dominant (the way I imagine it) aspect of my bondage fetish.

So try to find something else that links to fisting as an alternate to it so you can still enjoy sex with girls who aren't so kinky. Look at the specific aspects of what this is doing to you that turns you on so much and try to think of other things that make you feel similarly.

PPS: If you aren't already, make sure you're using lots of lube! It's far too easy to damage something in there when you're putting foreign objects into it!

^.^ Kurt ^.^

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