Wow what an interesting question. Okay so the first thing I should mention is that until very recently I identified as being lesbian. I met a man about three months ago and as I said in my little intro blurb, my head is still spinning. Dan's reply to me and I think this is such a valid statement isn't "people are bisexual" or "hetrosexual" or "homosexual". People are just sexual. Now to your husband, to answer his questions in his own mind, what parts of this woman ( someone that has gone that far whether she's had the "big surgery" or not deserves to be called a woman ) what parts of this woman does he find attractive? Is it her personality, her humor, her intelligence, or her compassion? Physically is he interested more in her face, her shoulders, her breasts? Or is he looking at her crotch and wondering about her penis? These are the sorts of things he should ask himself I think. Has he ever thought about other men in a sexual way? If the answer is no and he is feeling attraction for her the same way he would for any other woman, then the answer in my mind is that he's still heterosexual, he's responding to her based on her feminine presentation and cues, not on anything else.
And the correct term is whatever she calls herself, if she says shemale it's fine, though many prefer to use this term for adult entertainers, the more common term would be pre-operative transsexual, or transsexual woman, whatever ( as your friend ) makes her the most comfortable. The most important thing though is open communication, in this case your husband communicating with himself about what he really wants, is really curious about, etc.
Good Luck, I'll be curious to see where this leads,
"GO COMMUNICATION!!"
Rachael
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