[OneDayAtATime]

I'm a 37 year old male complete paraplegic(t-10 sci);7 years since i
was shot; no feeling below my belly button;
who before my injury enjoyed blowjobs, sexual intercourse and a lot of
jacking off;many times a day was a norm.Renting x rated vids was a
good day off. Maybe its a guy thing lol. I know this helped my sexual
tension at times and pre-injury, i was rarely depressed,even when things were
going bad.Boy,do i miss sexual freedom.


Getting to what i do without much hesitation.
While i enjoy the taste between her legs, between her ass cheeks and her
ability of orgasmic squirming;always have,it was much funner when i could
feel the touch of a woman's mouth on my dick or feel her warm moist
vagina.Unfortunately,while i enjoy all the positions a woman can put her
legs around on my mouth,its not satisfying me due to all i know i'm
missing out on.Her satisfaction should be enough right? Well its not and its not her fault.I still can't help being unfullfilled knowing what i'm missing. Now,i can't be satisfied sexually and feel inadequate as
a man.Kissing and touching her breasts just isn't the same. I don't have
any sensitive spots that get me turned on. My bowel and bladder i have
no control over either, which only adds to my insecurity sexually. The
bladder medications don't do a great job of stopping bladder spasms.Neurological pain leaves me unable to stay out of bed for long periods of time;usually 6 to 8 hours.

How can i reach a level of sexual ecstasy that can complete or at least
leave me content? .Seeing a gorgeous woman leaves me empty since i can't
feel an erection. Voyeurism and imagining youself as another doing
sexual acts can only do so much. I am sexually frustrated to no end and
miss the outlet of releasing sexual tension.Its torture and so much
misery,especially comparing myself to able- bodied people,which happens,even though i try not to.. I have
looked into para and quad forums to no success. The mind,to me at
least,isn't the best sexual force,although some have suggested that.I have been told by counselors that they know others in similiar situations from Vietnam and other wars.

One Individual stated:

They "treat" their situations by seeing therapists -- which, of course,
doesn't solve the basic problem -- but I guess it helps.

One views pornography and talks to sex-line women. I'm not sure this
helps any; it probably just makes things worse.

Other than seeing a psychiatrist for medication to reduce your sex drive
(if this is a very major issue with you), I don't have a real answer for
you.

At times i do scream,cry for hours on end and desire to be normal again,although i know that won't happen. I should be thankful for what i have,however realizing what i lost,its to much to bare.Sexual feelings were so much part of my life while now i have to compensate in other ways. I long for the way things used to be.Anyway,i don't know how often this is discussed but thought how others cope with these nightmarish situations may be communicated.

. Any advice would be much
appreciated as this person couldn't help!
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