why he never listen me when i ask for oralsex?

[akshaya]

My husband always ask me to do oralsex with him. but whenever i ask him to do on me he says he could not.... but i never force him. how do i turn him on me. coz i like to have oral sex. pls help. We are love cum arrage married couples. before marriage also we had sex with all safety, at that time he made oralsex but not now, why?

[scarbowl]

It's simple. If he wants it from you he has to be willing to offer it to you as well. That's fair. Also, men cum more easily while most women require clitoral stimulation (such as from oral sex) to orgasm.

He not only needs to give oral but he needs to be as enthusiastic and creative about it as he expects you to be with him.

You have to demand it. Otherwise it sounds as though he's not going to do it.

[Cuerdista]

Are you giving him oral sex? He might not want to give what he isn't getting. Do you keep your vulva clean? Do you bathe daily? A dirty vulva can be a turn off; odor, residue from vaginal discharge.

[akshaya]

Originally Posted by Cuerdista

Are you giving him oral sex? He might not want to give what he isn't getting. Do you keep your vulva clean? Do you bathe daily? A dirty vulva can be a turn off; odor, residue from vaginal discharge.

hey cuerdista,
HEY if u dont like such things please dont give any comments or dont tease people ok. its not fair. I request u not to do so. if i am clean or not it just not a matter to u. its between me and my hub. ok i request u not do this again to anyone else. ok bye dude

[akshaya]

[quote=scarbowl;6202]It's simple. If he wants it from you he has to be willing to offer it to you as well. That's fair. Also, men cum more easily while most women require clitoral stimulation (such as from oral sex) to orgasm.

He not only needs to give oral but he needs to be as enthusiastic and creative about it as he expects you to be with him.

You have to demand it. Otherwise it sounds as though he's not going to do it.[/QUOTE


HAI Scarbowl, i thank u so much for u reply.

[Cuerdista]

Well Akshaya,
When men ask why women won't give them oral sex the patent reply is always : are you clean and not smelly and do you return the favor.

So I ask again-are you even giving him the oral sex that he asks for? Because if you are not then you have no reason wonder why he won't do it for you.

[akshaya]

hai cuerdista,
thank u so much for ur reply, and my reply for ur question is.........
ya but still i am trying to avoid to give oral sex, but i feel that if i avoid, so he will be disappointed as i am.... i know how i feel "why my husband never turns on to me as like before" so, i think, if i avoid him he might be disappointed.

[Cuerdista]

You have a communication problem. Witholding sex or a particular sex act has never been a successful tactic. It only makes things worse. What you two need is to talk. Talk about this at a time and place where you can both feel comfortable and relaxed and are not having sex, not about to have sex and haven't just had sex. Try to be calm and mature about the conversation.

You could begin by asking what his desires, needs, fantasies and so forth are and after patiently listening you can tell him about yours.
I am not saying that one talk is going to clear everything up. It might, but probably won't. What it can do is open the door to further communication and begin moving you toward a situation that is more agreeable to both of you.

From what I have seen most couples have something in their sex lives that causes one or both to feel unsatisfied. The happier couples are the ones who are not afraid to confront the problem and deal with it.

If you find that you can't deal with it on your own then you might consider a couples therapist/counselor.

[Dibiase]

Originally Posted by Cuerdista

You have a communication problem. Witholding sex or a particular sex act has never been a successful tactic. It only makes things worse. What you two need is to talk. Talk about this at a time and place where you can both feel comfortable and relaxed and are not having sex, not about to have sex and haven't just had sex. Try to be calm and mature about the conversation.

You could begin by asking what his desires, needs, fantasies and so forth are and after patiently listening you can tell him about yours.
I am not saying that one talk is going to clear everything up. It might, but probably won't. What it can do is open the door to further communication and begin moving you toward a situation that is more agreeable to both of you.

From what I have seen most couples have something in their sex lives that causes one or both to feel unsatisfied. The happier couples are the ones who are not afraid to confront the problem and deal with it.

If you find that you can't deal with it on your own then you might consider a couples therapist/counselor.

Nicely Put.