How do tell my boyfriend im submissive (a slave) and i want him to use me

[Mandy in chicago]

iv been in to BDSM for about 4 years now and im really submissive and my boyfriend who iv been dating for a few months now dont know that about me and i want to tell him and bring it in to are sex life but im scared that he might think im carzy or something i know he loves me and wants to make me happy so i want to know if i should tell him now or wait a lil longer befor i tell him

[rob]

Tell him when you plan to have sex next.
If he doesn't accept you for who you are, then maybe he isn't the one you want to be with.

[Beagle]

Mandy: I think I would bring up the subject gently, maybe by asking him if he knows anything about it. Ultimately, I get the feeling that this is the kind of thing that either just isn't for an individual, or the person just can't get enough of it. If you're as hard-core as you sound I doubt most men are going to be able to handle it. I doubt I could. That's where you want to make sure you're with someone with whom you're compatible.

[MikeThePirate]

Has he expressed any kind of fetishes, does he seem to be a dominant type?. Me and my love, when we first started to know each other (been together a year and a half now) didn't really talk about that kind of thing until we both decided to talk openly about what turns each other on and such to better each other, turned out that she had been into bdsm and was submissive before she met me, and I was/am straight, down the middle switch.

Maybe you should do something like that if you haven't already or figure out something light you could do which you might feel would entice him, maybe pick up a cheap collar and/or cuffs, walk into the bedroom some time with them on and see how he reacts to it?. Either way, I also agree with Beagle, need to ease it in gently, don't go in full, bringing out everything and anything which you'd want him to use.

don't worry about it too much, you'll be fine. =)

Edit: A good place to find something would be www.extremerestraints.com unless you have your fav adult shop in mind. =)

[Cuerdista]

Most men would love to have a sex slave, from what I can tell, but some might be reticent to play such a game because they think their women will be put off or turned off. I cannot speak for all men, but if you were my girlfriend the best results would be obtained from telling me what you want want and need. Much lack of satisfaction stems from lack of communication.

[shadowsoul222]

I would suggest that the next time you get together just kind of let him be dominant in your various activities, i.e. letting him get on top etc. If he's willing then he'll keep going and you'll just naturally take up your respective roles. And bring in the bondage aspect when you think he's ready.

[Prorigger21]

Hi Mandy,
The best advice ever given to me I got from my trainer TALK, slowly. The scariest thing in the world is the fear that you meet someone you really care for and you tell them how you feel about something and they don't accept you for it. I very recently went through the same situation with my sweetheart I'm a trained dom and have been in the lifestyle for seven years when i met her she had never even heard of anything like it. I started very slowly, subtle hints, joking around a little, left a web page or two open, it slowly built her curiosity. I started talking to her about things that turned her on and started to lead the questions to tell her things I liked. I didn't jump right in a say "hey my turn on is to tie you up and use you till i have had my fill." pretty sure that would run just about anyone off, but i started with small things like i really like to be on top, and i really like to hold your wrists. I kept it really lighthearted she laughed at most of it but it planted the seed and thankfully human nature is curiosity soon she was trying to guess what i liked. After awhile when the time seemed right we had a little more serious talk and i told her my background, granted she wasn't sure what to do about it at first but i reassured her that it wouldn't change things and I reinforced that if she wasn't ok with it it wouldn't be a make or break.. I can't speak for your man but most guys aim to please and i have a feeling if you take it slow and "lead him to take the lead" you'll find things working out in no time.