Am I ready to go to a dungeon?

[candytiger]

I have been invited to go to a dungeon, but I am a little nervous. I haven't been in the BDSM scene long, at least not hardcore, just spanking mostly, and a little bondage. How serious is the dungeon scene? I am really interested in having an audience but I'm not really sure I'm ready to handle it. What if I wimp out?

[Beagle]

Candi: I've never been to a dungeon, but I'm going to suspect that the "no means no" principle applies there as well. I bet everyone there was nervous their first time too.

Make sure you go with someone you trust and respect and stick close to them. I'm sure that the people there vary in the activities they participate in. I doubt it's all or nothing. In fact, I'll bet no one would have a problem if you just watched your first time. I bet you wouldn't be the only one.

[candytiger]

Thanks for your advise, Beagle. One of the things I'm worried about is actually watching. I don't want to appear rude by staring or anything, but watching is really part of the attraction for me. I don't want to just watch my first time though. I want to let others watch too. I guess I'm more worried about wussing out in front of strangers than anything else. Thanks a bunch.

[Beagle]

I can tell by your word-choice and syntax that you're a strong-willed person. I don't see you having a problem. I bet you'll be one of those people who jumps out in front.

Please let us know what happens. I'll be curious to see if my judgment is on track.

[MisSwitch]

Most places have an area for getting to know/observing. Might be worth while to go and check it out first to see. Get a feel for the place before becomming involved in the scenes. And as beagle said, no means no, and scenes are *usually* discussed and agreed apon in advance.

[Cuerdista]

You don't say whether you are going to someone's personal dungeon or if you are going to a play party. The scene there is what you wish to make of it. The atmosphere is not a "pick up" sort and people are respectful of others and friendly. Also there are usually dungeon monitors at public play parties who help insure that the environment is pleasant for all.

I say go ahead. You are going to lobve it!