Anal Sex

[cuntseeker357]

I've been dating this Black guy for a couple months. He keeps pressing me to have anal sex. I have never had anal sex, because I think it is nasty and the anus is an exit. Someone told me that Blacks like anal sex. Is this true about Blacks? Why would anyone want to have anal sex? Is this why so many of them have aids? I've never been with a White guy that wanted to have anal sex. Someone said they have seen Blacks in porn and they always have unprotected anal sex.

[K. in Cleveland]

OK, first of all that is an incredibly racist post that I don't appreciate. Why is it a "black and white" thing? And why in the f---ing hell would you say something about AIDS? I really do not appreciate uneducated, racist, and hateful posts like that. If you're serious, please educate yourself. If you're a spammer, just go away. Also, please refer to this.

[Sub In Tenn]

By these remarks you must live in tn.Hate is a terrible thing.Judging a person by color is completely racist,stupid and eliterate.my best friend is black and the cleanest and most safe person I've ever known.more gays like anal sex than anybody and most gays are white.also more whites are in porn than blacks and most are not protected.WAKE UP!!

[Exavion]

Well I can't speak for every other white guy out there, but anal sex does interest me, even both ways. It's really just something you need to try once for youself. If you do it right, the danger is hardly even present at all; and who knows? You may even enjoy it!

I'm sure there are things you want him to try that he's having second thoughts over... so a wild intense relationship usually is focused around two heavily open minded people who are willing to just give something new a try, as long as it's not extremely dangerous.

[Dan And Jennifer]

I just wanted to say thanks to all of you for taking charge on this issue and representing the best of what AskDanAndJennifer has to offer - positive, supportive, and helpful feedback.

[Tess20]

I have a Mexican husband and he wanted to try it a while back and i thought it was nasty after hearing all stories about it. but then i thought every one whats to try something new at some point of time. so one hight i let him it wasn't comfortible at first and it seemed to turn him on more and it beats using condoms for me. and as time goes it will feel better not good like in the pussy but it wont hurt anymore .

[GeekyJenn]

Those comments were very inappropriate. I almost feel offended for my black friends! But I know one doesn't like anal at all.

I know the only anal i have ever tried was with a white guy and he went about it a not good way. So, anal has been a turn off ever since. That, and learning about microbiology has taught me other things... so, if you do want to do anal sex, protection is HIGHLY recommended in a form of a condom and a lot of cleaning. Lubrication is also a requirement and taking it very slowly, as not to damage the sphincter ring or any other tissue in that area.

(this is for people who wanted more information about anal....)

[Dan And Jennifer]

Jenn, indeed the posts from this guy just went downhill from this one. It's a fine line what you delete for "being offensive" and what you keep, one we're not even touching here, it's too broad a discussion... but it's important to remember what the purpose of this community is, so that makes it clearer. So we ended up deleting many of them and banning his account. He wasn't here to seek help or to be a supportive influence for others.

Oh well, back to our regularly scheduled programming!