BDSM - Limits and Ceilings

[ImLargenLovely]

I've just recently met a wonderful man who is Dom. We've progressed really quickly into this and I'm loving it!!!!!!!! I have a VERY high tolerance and progression was just natural for us. My concern is limits...wondering if you are in a long term relationship, do you continue to do the same things that you enjoy or do you go deeper and farther along? My concern is where this all ends...how far is far enough. I mean I don't want to end up dead. I realize everyone is different. I just would like the opinion of others who have enjoyed this for a longer period of time and how their relationship worka and continue to be exciting and fresh.

Thanks for the opportunity to question others...this is a great site!!!!!!!!!

[The Beautiful Kind]

You sound so happy!

I say go deeper and farther along, slowly push it and see where it takes you. A couple of my friends got really into BDSM and were having some wild times, very intense, but that was what felt right to them at that point in their lives. These days they are both happily married to mildly kinky dudes and that suits them just fine.

If you follow some basic safety rules (hit fleshy areas, not joints, don't tie rope around your neck, no toasters in the bathtub) you should be fine. You'll know when you have gone far enough.

E.N.J.O.Y.!

[Dan And Jennifer]

Agreed!

We all grow and change and evolve as time goes on, so what you find enjoyable today may fade with time or evolve into something completely different. Just pay attention to your body and your emotions so that you'll know when you're approaching various boundaries...

And definitely keep talking to one another so that you can stay on the same page as to what's enjoyable to both of you.

[Sub In Tenn]

Originally Posted by ImLargenLovely

I've just recently met a wonderful man who is Dom. We've progressed really quickly into this and I'm loving it!!!!!!!! I have a VERY high tolerance and progression was just natural for us. My concern is limits...wondering if you are in a long term relationship, do you continue to do the same things that you enjoy or do you go deeper and farther along? My concern is where this all ends...how far is far enough. I mean I don't want to end up dead. I realize everyone is different. I just would like the opinion of others who have enjoyed this for a longer period of time and how their relationship worka and continue to be exciting and fresh.

Thanks for the opportunity to question others...this is a great site!!!!!!!!!

I been waiting for years for master/husband and mistress/friend to dom me.Recently it all came together.Talking is important and limits need to be respected.If you have trust in him then give him your body,mind and soul.Since I did that i get the spankings that I desired[a burning bottom],to serve as a real slave leaving them to decide for me what is best.It seems each week they have something that is new and exciting which always excites me.We're not into blood,dangerous things and anything nasty.We still do the things we always enjoyed and now have ventured into many different things.my mistress has me in anal trainning now and my pleasure comes from her orders and my ability to serve her as i do for him.i could tell you more but sure your interested.hoped i helped