We've broken up but I still love him

[cruiser_chic]

Two months ago my boyfriend and I broke up and he went back to his ex. We are still good friends. Three weeks ago we had sex and now we have had it quite a few times. I don't like being the other woman but I still love him. What do I do??? How do I move on???

[brokenhearted20m]

im going through the same thing right now but if hes cheating on his girlfriend with you then he probably cheated on you with her, so maybe hes not worth loving, it sounds to me like hes using you both for sex... but i could be really wrong, is he still with that girl???...how long did you guys date? i dated my girlfriend for 2 years and i broke up with her because i was jealous that she wanted to spend time with someone over me, but i realized how much of a mistake i made and she wont take me back now, maybe she thinks ill still be jealous but i believe im a changed person, but right now were friends with benefits and she says she loves me but she wont be my girlfriend, she says its the distance we have between us we live an hour apart and shes worried we wouldnt make it in the future because of this mishap.....i hope i could help, because i know its hard trying to get over someone you love more than anything especially when you continue to have sex and talk and see them

[cruiser_chic]

Thanks for your advice. We were together for 6 months. He was with his ex for 2 years and then broke up with her as she had major issues to work through and that's when we got together. Then after 6 months he said that he felt that it wasn't working out and wanted to go back to his ex. In a way I admire him for his honesty. I don't think that he did see her while we together but now that he is trying to sleep with me I often wonder. I still have deep feelings for him so I if he comes over I love the attention. Just wish I knew what to do....can anyone help????

[Mac]

If you truly feel that you would be happy with him if he did in fact choose to leave his ex for you then you're going to be faced with those feelings of doubt. The situation is tough to be in when your the "other woman" he's cheating on his current girlfriend with. The fact is you're also his ex and have a history with him which makes this situation all that more complicated.

You will have to get past the obstacle of these trust issues if you decide to pursue this and get him back with you. It is often hard to start with a clean slate and forgive and forget the past with your history and the current history being made with his proven cheating even though it's with you. The real issue at hand is you will be reminded that he cheated on this woman with you and if you do get him back, the conflict will be in the back of you mind.