confused and scared
Well first off i don't believe i am here asking things. Let me just go with my thoughts. I have been married for 17 yrs and been seeing this woman for 2 1/2 yrs. now she has been married for 25 yrs and her husband is one of them jerk types that always put her down and is abusive.
Me and my wife are total opposites, what i like she thinks is weird or odd or even sick and puts me down for it. Now if she likes something i don't put her down about it i just let her enjoy it and don't tell her she is odd or weird. I am not trying to be sexist either but when i work and she is off she rarely make dinner for me or if she does she makes something she knows i don't like. Now when i am home and she is working ill make dinner for everyone and it will be something everyone likes. She also acts like a child, that is the best way to put it, like a spoiled brat. she is more worried about watching a soap operas and sitting around on her off days than doing what needs done around the house to help out. I do most all the things for the family like food shopping and taking the kids to the Dr or their friends. Her excuse is she don't wanna drive or go to the store. So basically you will get the just of things i am like a single parent with an adult kid.
We have 3 kids together but i am totally unhappy at home the wife don't like to do things that i like or is unwilling to try. I like walking in the woods and sitting by a lake and trips to the mountains. She would rather sit at home and watch TV or do nothing. Now when it comes to the girlfriend we both like all the same activities. And when it comes to sex we both like the same things sexually and are open to trying things together. Unlike with the wife she thinks sex is dirty, and so does the girlfriends hubby.
Me and the Girlfriend have been talking about making a move for us to be together. We have talked about this in depth and we do really love each other and are very happy with each other. And we have the ability to talk about things that we cant talk about with our spouses because we know we will be put down for it. But the part that scares the hell out of me is hurting my kids and breaking up there home as they are 11,14,16. I love them more than life itself but i also hate going through life being unhappy and miserable. And i have felt this way long before the G/F came into the picture at least for the last 7 to 8 yrs.The G/F has kids also but they are older the youngest is 18. And i am worried about their reaction also if and when we go through with this. I guess what i am trying to get at is how do i do things so i can be happy but not destroy my children's lives tho i am not sure how much more being miserable i can take.
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08-24-2008, 03:32 AM
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