Get her back!

[zerochristmas]

Hi, I broke up with my girl friend and it has been 7 months. Sadly, I HAVE not got over her.. usually, it takes people maxium of 3 or 4 months, but at 7, I, at times still cry...

I think about her too much. I dont contact her, see her facebook, msn or anything at all!

People keeps telling me to take time, do hobbies and you will soon get over it. Well, thats what I did, I go to the gym, talk to friends, swimming, play games, hang out, BUT I still cant get over her.. Maybe my potencial is to get her back. Most people tell me not to. But this is what I want..

So tell me everyone.. Is there any chance of getting ehr back? I know which train station she gets off... should I wait outside till she comes out and have a talk with her??

AS I said.. its been 7 months!! Over half a year!! its too loong and I still cry at times. I really want her back. Please everyone.. dont give comments telling me not to get her back, take more times or get new hobbies or what so ever.. I just want her back, so if you can give me suggestions on how to get her back like waiting for her at train station or something is a good idea, that would BE great! =]

Please no negative like '' dont waste your time '' I want to make it happen.

Thank you for reading this.

[Saishuu]

So you've been with 7 other girls and you still want her back? I think any girl would be pretty damn flattered by that and you should just be honest and tell her that.

She might give you a chance to start where you left off.

[Dan And Jennifer]

Originally Posted by zerochristmas

Hi, I broke up with my girl friend and it has been 7 months. Sadly, I HAVE not got over her.. usually, it takes people maxium of 3 or 4 months, but at 7, I, at times still cry...

I think about her too much. I dont contact her, see her facebook, msn or anything at all!

People keeps telling me to take time, do hobbies and you will soon get over it. Well, thats what I did, I go to the gym, talk to friends, swimming, play games, hang out, BUT I still cant get over her.. Maybe my potencial is to get her back. Most people tell me not to. But this is what I want..

So tell me everyone.. Is there any chance of getting ehr back? I know which train station she gets off... should I wait outside till she comes out and have a talk with her??

AS I said.. its been 7 months!! Over half a year!! its too loong and I still cry at times. I really want her back. Please everyone.. dont give comments telling me not to get her back, take more times or get new hobbies or what so ever.. I just want her back, so if you can give me suggestions on how to get her back like waiting for her at train station or something is a good idea, that would BE great! =]

Please no negative like '' dont waste your time '' I want to make it happen.

Thank you for reading this.

I'm going to start off by saying that being alone and miserable is not a good way to get over someone; finding someone new is something to think about.

Now back to your question. Of course there's a chance, there's always a chance. The odds of getting back together usually aren't very high - but anything's possible. Where there's a will (and no restraining order, LOL), there's usually a way.

Of course it depends on a hundred factors, such as...
- why you broke up to begin with
- how you left off
- is she now with someone she actually likes, or is she hoping you'll come back
- does she ever want to see you again
- were you happy at any point in your relationship.. i mean truly happy
- did you break up and leave on good terms, i.e. you're "still friends"

These are just to get you thinking. it's also key to not become the "weird stalker guy" that won't just accept it and move on.

Think long and hard if you really believe it could work - not want it to work, but see any hope of it working. And frankly, the straight up approach like getting in touch by phone or something and suggesting you meet for a cup of coffee to talk might work. especially if you left on good terms; if she has a restraining order out on you or she already told you 10 times to disappear, then your odds are not so good of getting to even say your peace. You never know unless you try.

There are also various guides by different relationship and break up coaches, such as "The Magic of Making Up - How to Get Your Ex Back" by TW Jackson.

So give it some thought - and let us know how it goes!

[fawkse]

think about the stuff dan and jen pointed out. see where you fall in there.
i have been broken up with the man i am with now 3 times. first, we dated when we were kids ( 13 and 14) for a week, and i broke it off. second, i broke up with him after a year of really decent serious dating. i relapsed on a drug, and i enedd up making my life a living hell. he went to the army. third, was not too long ago. we were living together, and he got a lot of bad advice from his family. we fought daily. he figured i was using him, and that i lacked ambition to life. (his family has a lot of pool when it comes to his life...)
my point here is that regardless of breaking up, we still couln't let eachother completely go. there is always hope. he could never really bring himself to date other women much duiring these break ups. i, on the other hand, did try to date. the other guys never could help me forget him though.
we always used email to talk to eachother. we both would tell eachother how we felt, and after a few of those, we would start visitng. the chemistry between us never died.
maybe you could write her, and just simply tell her you really miss her. after she responds, you will know where to go from there.
good luck
~fawkse~