We've broken up

[Alex]

My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years now. We're both seniors in high school. In the first year everything was amazing, he treated me with such respect and I felt like I was the lucky one to be with him. I think after that I started picking a lot of fights and I take the blame for that. He broke up with me but two days later came back telling me he needed me etc. A few months later this past May he just was not treating the relationship with much effort anymore. He got his license, was hanging out with older guys and it was just like he was getting more immature as he grew up. I broke up with him because I felt I had no other choice. After about 3 weeks of mind games, he hooked up with another girl and immediately came back to me as if kissing that girl proved to him that I was the only one he wanted. It has been five months now and out of the blue he broke up with me. We had been bickering for about 2 days and it ended with one giant fight when he pushed me. Instead of feeling sorry and trying to make me happy, he broke up with me saying that he doesn't deserve me and that he just doesn't want the relationship. He was crying before I was, he told me he still loved me and that I was making the break up very hard on him. I told him I hated him and that i never wanted to see him again and I ran away from him. He tried looking for me, asking my friends to help him. He told one of my good friends he's mad that I'm "gone forever". I miss him very much and it's hard considering we hang out with the same group of friends. We both lost our virginity to eachother and I am so scared that he's going to go out there and just have sex with every girl he sees. He was always so loyal to me, never flirted with another girl. Every one keeps telling me to live each day as it comes, but waiting to see what happens is killing me. What do you think I should do/what do you think is going to happen?

[Alexstrandberg]

I think you should let him do whatever he wants to do and let him be. A guy who pushes you and is' too cool for school' is not worth your time. Nobody breaks up out of the blue for no apparent reason. Obviously there was something wrong with the relationship that he wasn't telling you.

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[Mac]

The good news is he is mad at you. That means he has emotions about the relationship and any emotion at all is a good sign you can reconcile.

The opposite of love is not being mad or angry... it's complete and utter indifference.

Keep that in mind if you're considering getting him back. Right now you need to spend the time of no contact rule, and analyzing the relationship and why it lead to this break up. Then work on bettering yourself and presenting a better "you" when the time is right to set an arrangement to meet and discuss your issues

[Susan from NewYork]

Take care of yourself first. Feel good about you.

[Alex]

yeah but see it'll be aweek tomorrow...we havent spoken or seen eachother since the break up. I have all his clothes, and my birthday is next weekend. I just don't know what to do to reconcile with him