what do i do?

[Corey]

what do you do when the person that you fall madly in love with breaks up with you? what do you do when you cant forget about her? every were you look you are reminded of her.
we loved each other a lot. she was the best thing to happen to me. she made me happier than Ive ever been. she gave me a lot to look forward to. we may have had our days were we would fight and it happened quite a bit. but the days we weren't arguing we would have the best days of our lives.
i miss everything about her. i know that it hasn't been that long since we broke up, but i miss her and everything about her. i miss her smile, her laugh, her body/face/hair. i miss the times we had together. they were great and i was happy and could eat without feeling sick. i haven't eaten more than a meal a day because i would get sick if i did.
i want her back i haven't gotten over her and everyone tells you that time heals everything. but not if you still love that person and always will even if you try to forget about them, you cant. she says that there is no chance because we didn't get along.
i know you don't change for people but i am willing to change for her because it wouldn't be just for her. id do anything to have her back as long as it doesn't involve hurting anyone or jumping into something that will ruin anything for me or her. i still love her more than anything. she was perfect to me. and no one Ive seen or meet has compared to her. i know theres a lot of people in the world and I'm sure there are people who have similar traits to her but not as good. not to me. but maybe thats just because in my eyes she is more than perfect.
I'm more than just a little depressed and i cant seem to get her off my mind and i know she still loves me. she even said so.. but she said she wasn't happy. and i want to make her happy like she made me happy. i guess my question is should i keep trying because i know that i will never find someone as good as her or move on and deal with the closest i have to her? but then id feel bad because my heart would belong to her and id feel like id be using that person.

[itsjustsex]

I know what you are hoping for is the magic words that you can tell her to come back to you or at least that you can tell yourself to get over her. The bad news is no such words exist, and believe me, I wish they did.

She tells you that there is no chance of getting back together because you didn’t get along and that she wasn’t happy. While I know you think she is perfect, she isn’t nor is she the only one for you. I blame this mode of thinking on both society and the movies.

(I’m short so I’ll get out my ladder and climb up on my soap box) Many if not most romantic comedies depict life and relationships is a very poor manner in regards to how they really are. Look at the basic story lines of many romance movies.

1. Boy meets girl.
2. Boy and girl are attracted to each other and “Fall in Love”
3. Boy and girl fight and eventually break up with tons of drama
4. Boy decides girl is the only one for him in the entire world and vows to get her back
5. Boy starts showing up at work with love notes, taking out billboards to express his love for her, sends her flowers and presents even though she has said she wants nothing to do with him anymore.
6. Boy makes a final “Grand Gesture” to show his eternal love
7. This causes girl to realize that through his persistence she really loves him
8. Boy and girl get back together and live happily ever after.

While most women watch movies like this and think “How Romantic” if they were hit with the same situation, they would be getting a restraining order, why… Because it’s stalking!

Now, I am not saying you’re a stalker, I’m just pointing out the fact that society and movies are partially to blame here.

The notion that there is only “ONE” person in the world for each of us is nonsense. Was she special to you? Sure. Do you have to stop being in love with her. You really should as unrequited love just sucks, but to think she is the only person in the world who can make you happy is just silly and the sooner you come to terms with that, the sooner you can move on. If you keep thinking that she is the only one in the world who can make you happy, then it will come true and you will spend your whole life in the past.

When it comes to dating other women, don’t think of everyone you date as that she is somehow inferior to your ex. Whether this is true or not, you need to not apply that standard to other people you date. First off, it will become a self fulfilling prophecy if you start out each new relationship knowing it won’t be as good has yours was with her it won’t be, and while other women may not have all the traits that she did, they will have new and different ones that will make you just as happy. Plus it’s not fair to make the other women you date complete with a ghost.
So.. Long story short. Time will eventually heal this, really it will! If you truly love her and would do anything for her, let her go. You may find that she comes back in 6-12 months.. You never know. Date, date a lot, and take all your dates to dinner so you eat better. You only get one shot at life, don’t waste it obsessing over someone who is not in your life, while preventing any one new from entering.. That just makes for a wasted life!

Sorry I couldn’t offer something more helpful, but if you take the right mental attitude and keep looking, you will find someone else whom you don’t have all this drama with and one whom also makes you happy. It may not be happy in the same way, but happy is happy afterall!

[sexjourneycouple]

Corey my recommendation is you get some counseling, you know I loved one girl madly for over five years. Although it was from a distance, ultimately I married a different girl who I know I will spend the rest of my life with. I know that we will grow together more over time. I know that she is the one meant for me.

You need to find someone who shares your value of having one love for your entire life, and who matches your heart. When you have that person you will never look back. The question is if you were really so in love with her? or just in love with the idea of love?

How long were you in a relationship with her? Why was she not happy? and why did she not value your relationship over what she thinks will make her happy?