I dumped him

[Kiwi]

Hey.. so I finally dumped him.. 2 years and its hard.. I'm sort of lonely right now..
School started and the few friends i had were very happy i dumped him but now they're too busy being reunited with their other friends.. Feels like i'm doing this alone.. all over again.

My last ex dumped me and no one really acknowledged it so it was tough.
I don't really have a question.. I'm just really lonely and sad right now.

The ex i just broke up with is still calling me and saying "i love you" and getting upset if i don't say it back.. I do still love him but I don't think i can trust him again..
He called me stupid, he can't keep a job..
I still want to be his friend but he's making it hard.. if i tell him "no" he says "fine then! maybe i'll just get out of your life!"

:/
it sort of feels like my friend pressured me now.. cause now that i dumped him they don't even want to sped time with me. -.-

anyways thanks ^^

[YourEternalRest]

I would suggest breaking off all kinds of communication with him. It's only going to make it tougher for you to get over him. It may not feel like it now, but later on I think you will realize that the choice you made was the right one. You don't deserve to stay in such an abusive relationship. Kudos to you for being able to break up with him. It's the start of a new school year so I'm sure you'll be able to make new friends. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let this break up consume you.

[Xero]

Good job.

It was about time you got out of that relationship. I had a longer message but I hit something and it deleted all my text so I'll make it shorter due to my time restraints.

It's ok if he wants to be friends. You will make new friends, just be careful when you do so your not in the wrong crowd looking for acceptance. Make sure you get over this dead relationship it can be like mourning a dead person. Its gotta be done before you get into a new relationship because it can hurt the new one if your not over the last one.

Don't get roped into the relationship you just left because it will make you miserable again and you will feel as you owe him back for breaking up in the first place.

I think that's everything if i remember.

Good Luck, and Good Job.

[Kiwi]

I guess this is a little update.. I'm pretty much over him. He sort of annoys me now but we don't talk much.. He did say that the next bf I get he's going to find out who he is and beat the sh*t out of him :/
I'm kinda scared to get a new boyfriend.. I told him he if does that I'm calling the police.

Okay so there was a new guy I was interested in.. he seemed interested too.. we flirt through texts and when we make plans he ALWAYS blows me off.. he's a very nice guy.. i've known him for 3 years. Just feels like I'm not good enough anymore..

all the other guys just want pussy.. I don't know.. Really sad and annoyed.

so now what since i probably won't ever find another guy?
I know your all going to say "oh but your young. There will be plenty of guys"..
I doubt that because I have very bad luck with men.

sorry.

[Xero]

Before you jump into a new relationship you have to be fully over the last one. Which you stated you are but make sure because it can affect the next relationship you want/have.

I don't see why the guy would blow you off, if this continues then I would move on to the next guy.

I know how the world and most men just want pussy, but thats how the world sort of is. Look for someone who wants a long relationship and is willing to take things slow. That's what I would aim for if I where you. Yes there are people out there like that and Yes you will find some one just for you.

Just on another topic someone was complaining a guy was too slow for them. It happens all the time just gotta look and find it. Everyone is raised in a different environment and we all take things differently.

I was raised with it not being a problem, so everyone is different and there are guys who probably had fast relationships that want slower ones. Just give it time and keep your options open there is no rush to jump into something.

Even for the record if you where in my area and of legal age for me I would date you because I'm in a slow relationship. I love it and really enjoy it, and it's been 9months with out sex. (oh yes we are still both virgins)

Just another thought if he does harass you or beats up your next guy do report him to the authorities don't be afraid. It's the police's job to investigate stuff like that. Just make sure you have evidence.

[YourEternalRest]

I don't think you're going to do yourself any favors by continuing to stay in touch with your ex-bf. It's quite obvious he has issues based on what he said in your post.

all the other guys just want pussy..

That may be true, but there are lots of women out there who are out there for sex as well. But if this is what you really think, then maybe it's not time to jump into a new relationship yet.

so now what since i probably won't ever find another guy?

I think this is also another sign that you may want to take a break before starting a new relationship. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you but your way of thinking sounds like you don't want to give yourself a chance.