can i get her back

[hammer08]

went out on a date with a girl and i was being a bit too quiet which i usually am not, so got home and was still txting eachother alot then i got a message saying we should get to know eachother better then go back out it has been a month now and have tried any ideas

[modernsavage]

Well if she suggested that you two should get together again, then it's obvious she's attracted to you. A month is way too long to be waiting for another date, you need to take action soon, or risk losing any possibility of creating a connection with this girl. Just try to get another date lined up as soon as possible.

[hammer08]

i have seen her a couple more times in the month but its not been dates just goin out with friends, but its her birthday at the end of the month i think i will make a move then

[Mac]

do something a little larger scale like ask her out very bluntly.

arrange your plan for the date day to include variety of things besides a movie. In my opinion a movie doesn't give you an opportunity to "get to know someone" brudda. A movie is for necking with your girl in the dark. At least back in my days it was. Do something together like a carnival or museum visit. Do something creative where you will be interacting. Fun things keep smiles on her face and make for laughter or even situations that inspire some sort of feedback and communication. You know, ...small talk. that's getting to know you right there at the core man.

Museum visit or art gallery, all the things you'll get made fun of by your buddies will earn you some points with this broad. You want to do something that she will have as a "memorable" date. Anything exciting like carnival or some type of fair(yes i know i'm a bit of an old fart and those things are not as common anymore). Something where the two of yous will interact and have a sort of feedback like a museum and art exhibit.

Go do the bowling lanes if she's into that sort of thing. Goto the park and have a picnic. You will get a chance to openly interact with each other and she will be thus... "be getting to know you"

Hope that helps at least a tiny bit brother

[modernsavage]

Originally Posted by hammer08

i have seen her a couple more times in the month but its not been dates just goin out with friends, but its her birthday at the end of the month i think i will make a move then

Dude, stop making excuses. If you're going to make a move, you should do it NOW. Don't wait until her birthday, that's probably the worst time to do it. During her birthday, she'll be distracted by parties, friends, etc. Her mind will be in other places and not on you.

Get in touch with her and ask her if she wants to do something fun. Set it up and take her out. Mac had some good date suggestions above.

I'm not trying to be a dick or anything, but you need to get the thought process of "waiting until the right time" out of your head. There will never be a perfect moment to make a move. You deal with what you have at the moment and make it happen.

[Dan And Jennifer]

Originally Posted by modernsavage

Dude, stop making excuses. If you're going to make a move, you should do it NOW. Don't wait until her birthday, that's probably the worst time to do it. During her birthday, she'll be distracted by parties, friends, etc. Her mind will be in other places and not on you.

Get in touch with her and ask her if she wants to do something fun. Set it up and take her out. Mac had some good date suggestions above.

I'm not trying to be a dick or anything, but you need to get the thought process of "waiting until the right time" out of your head. There will never be a perfect moment to make a move. You deal with what you have at the moment and make it happen.

Absolutely, Matt is right on. Swift action is usually the best guarantee of success. You know the common saying, "strike while the iron is hot". That's because you're much more likely to succeed.

Without getting too metaphysical on you here, I am a firm believer that The Universe, God, or reality, whatever you choose to believe in - presents you with opportunities and it is your options if you choose to seize them. If you sit around "thinking about it" most of these opportunities fade away as quickly as they appear.

I'm bad about this too sometimes, but "no excuses"... don't justify why something won't or didn't work, because you're basically self-talking yourself into it going wrong again. Focus on what you want to see happen and take action - no excuses, no fear.

Dan

[K. in Cleveland]

Oh, I totally agree with Dan and Matt.. you gotta do it now. As a lady, I can say it sucks when a guy you like, and you think likes you, keeps beating around the bush and won't ask you out. I guess I'm a modern girl and I don't subscribe to the "guys ask girls out, girls don't ask guys" ides.. probably because I got sick and tired of waiting for guys to ask me out. But I don't know many other girls like me... for the most part society says that girls have to be asked out, so most girls wait... and this one may well be waiting for you. But if you don't strike now, she may go with someone else, who is a little bolder and says something to her to make her go.

Just do it... (to steal Nike's slogan)

[hammer08]

probly do it saturday then, thats the next time i'm seeing her and thanks for the adive everyone

[Mac]

you went on just one date and it's been a month since you've heard from her?

I'd say move on brother

[hammer08]

Originally Posted by Mac

you went on just one date and it's been a month since you've heard from her?

I'd say move on brother

i have now she talks to me but im ignorin her