My husband looks at porn, a lot of porn, I want him to look at me, not other women.. .help

[Candi]

My husband is a very horny guy, and he likes to try new things. He is an honest man, and he has never given me any other reason to "not" trust him. However, recently, I had sent him a couple dirty texts, and I thought maybe this would cause him to masturbate until I got home from work, then we could do what the text has described. Well, we were talking over AIM while I was at work, and the conversation went into how he does do a lot of "rubbing" if I am not around, but he does some of it while watching porn. Now, I am not against porn, but I am a jealous wife, a jealous person. Him watching another women bothers me. He knows this. He again says he watches for new ideas, and he apparently tried one on me previously. How do I get him to want to look at me and not other women? Its not like we aren't have sex, because we have sex almost every night. I don't understand why if he is horny, doesn't come to me, why does he go to porn?

[pearlgirl24]

I thought maybe he needs something new in the bedroom so i went out a bought some fishnet stocking , high heels and a black see through top and believe me He wasn't watching any porn that night insteed we made our own that night.

[Candi]

We can talk about this, and we chatted a little last nite, as well, he found out that I was looking for "some ideas" and that really turned him on, and we had what we both thot was amazing sex. This is what I am worried about... that I can give it to him, but he is gonna continue to look at this stuff... so how did you keep him off of it?

[Vivian]

I did the same thing and the buying didn't stop. I now noticed that the "new" stuff we tried made it into his collection of porn and now he wants that "new" stuff added into our routine. I am as lost as you. I wish I had some better advice for you but, I think maybe we have to live with it? I have even offered to go with him to buy the porn and he still prefers to go alone.

[H.dutch]

i dont think u should be jealous because i am pretty sure when he is masturbating to porn when he feels the most excitement and just before he comes he is thinking of u and wat ever is in the movie that ur doing that to him or him doing that to u. i know this because that is wat happens to me and he just needs it there because he does dont worry about it to much he wont leave u for porn

[MIMI]

Look at it this way your man likes playing video games. You bought him this 360 and one game with it. He has played that game over and over again. What does he do. Go out and buy a new game. So its sord of like the bedroom you have to try to keep things spiced up. Do not keep doing things for so long. It gets boring. Research things. Instead of watching a porn make a porn. Let him be the star of the show.

[Candi]

Thank you so much for all the reply. I really hope that you are right!!! Ill keep everyone updated! Thank so much!

[animefetish]

guys need to masturbate from time to time even if they get sex often. and guys r visual creatures having a picture or video to watch just helps guys orgasm faster. to a guy the porn image is not about seeing "another woman" its just a tool to get a nut faster. remember guys dont need emotions to have sex with someone and guys dont associate having an orgasm with love guys need to get a nut like all people need to pee from time to time to us guys it means nothing if we can cum in 2 minutes looking at a hot pic then y take 10 minutes trying to use our imagination about some memory of a girlfriend or some fantasy we want to try in the future guys brains dont work that way....

[Candi]

Thanks so much for the info! I have realized with the different things that have come up recently that men think definitely different then us women. I got so offended when he masturbated the one time, after I made him hard.I felt like a piece of meat. It turned out, A. I was making him hard, and B. he was running late for work. So, again, a mountain out of a molehill. Guys just do it, and I don't think I will understand it completely but I got the drift.

Thanks again!

[xartorin_swe]

if he likes porn and it turns him on allot
start whit trying to watch porn whit him

then see if you can take it to it steps that i start fantasize more about you
maybe he already does but he find porn so he can make his brain concentrate on you

but i does not sound like that ...

you can start making porn movies your self whit him or alone to him

BUT and it is a big BUT if him or you start sharing it on the web i can only give you a big warning to that it can make him look more at porn on the web

i hope it helped