I have a question about Pornography. I'm 15.

[fahugugahds]

I've seen many topics addressing the idea I'm about to ask your opinions upon, however not many of them are relevant to my specific circumstance.

I view pornography regularly, once a day if I am able to do so, and this is in secrecy. I can't remember when I started, perhaps it was when I realized the majority of the internet is composed of it (no really, it's something like 80%?). My parents have caught me once in 3rd grade (yep, that's early) and told me that I ought not to be viewing such graphic content because it could alter my judgement for the worse.

TBH I started up again a year or two after being caught the first time. However, I have recently been caught again, but this time by my own confession when asked whether or not I had been doing such things (I can't directly lie to my parents: that's one of the things my principles have ruled out as irrational).
As far as my parents know, they haven't a clue that I've been viewing pornography fo so many years. It's addicting...

My parents: my mother adheres to her religious principles while my father goes by sense and logic, so religion doesn't doesn't click with him as well as my mother. As for myself, I like to think I am a follower of logic, and logic to me dictates that this is a fine and enjoyable past-time and that no negative effects have manifested themselves in my subconcious.


So I ask this final question, but before reading that, I first ask that you not base your opinions about morals and acknowledge that morals are relative to individuals. Here comes the question... 'Should I or should I not be viewing pornography at this age.' I know that many of you will like to say that I ought to follow the law or that I should follow my parents, but I ask why they are right and I'm wrong. Neither the law nor my parents provide reasonable logic, I seek it in the only haven of sexual open-mindedness I know... I would also appreciate it if you showed how your explanations apply to me specifically. If I didn't have that I could have just considered all the other general statements about pornography in this forum.

[Xero]

Is it wrong, only in the law, or your parent's eyes.

Is it wrong for your age, no. This is normal for some one your age to be viewing. I my self saw porn a long long time ago when I was pretty young. I wish to say around the same age you started. Yes it can become very addicting and sort of become routine and then take over your life in a way. You just have to try and limit your self.

[YourEternalRest]

First started watching in third grade? Yes, I would agree that was a very young age, which I'm guessing you were about eight at the time? I don't think I started watching porn until I was 12 or 13. That was when I got my first computer but I don't remember how I first discovered it.

By age 15, I would say most people have seen porn. Whether they do it regularly or if they just stumbled upon in it somehow will depend on how interested they are in porn. However, I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it. It's a pastime for many people your age and older as well. Now, if you're thinking about listening to what your parents tell you, that's a different story. But then, you can probably remind them that a lot of the kids your age are having sex already and I'm not sure if you're having sex on top of being addicted to porn or not. Ultimately, it's up to you whether you want to keep doing it or not. Will it be listen to the parents or go with your desires?

[fahugugahds]

Originally Posted by YourEternalRest

First started watching in third grade? Yes, I would agree that was a very young age, which I'm guessing you were about eight at the time? I don't think I started watching porn until I was 12 or 13. That was when I got my first computer but I don't remember how I first discovered it.

By age 15, I would say most people have seen porn. Whether they do it regularly or if they just stumbled upon in it somehow will depend on how interested they are in porn. However, I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it. It's a pastime for many people your age and older as well. Now, if you're thinking about listening to what your parents tell you, that's a different story. But then, you can probably remind them that a lot of the kids your age are having sex already and I'm not sure if you're having sex on top of being addicted to porn or not. Ultimately, it's up to you whether you want to keep doing it or not. Will it be listen to the parents or go with your desires?

Well here's my deal. I listen to my parents when they provide reasonable explanations for their restrictions. For example, their explanation for refraining from actual intercourse with a female at my age is reasonable: unwanted pregnancy, STDs, rape accusations (on top of 15 year old sex being illegal), risks that are small and possibly fabricated, but ones that I'm not willing to take (which means I'm not sexually active).

However, it seems that they are unsure what to do about porn. I think they just go with the masses when they say I shouldn't watch it, and when asked to provide a reason they aren't sure how to proceed.

Since they usually are reasonable people, I came here to make sure I'm not missing anything when I disobey them. So far, your feedback along with Xero has only confirmed my skepticism, so thanks for replying.

[Chuchie in Puerto Rico]

Well....i personally understand your problem..what ur parents are trying to avoid is to have u become addicted to porn, which then turns u an addict to sex, and thats not good, ur not sexually active and thats not a bad thing, just focus on other things and personally sex is something u should do when ur ready and knowing the risks and using the right protection, but watching porn depends on the amount of time u spend watching it

[Dan And Jennifer]

Our motto is to question everything and that seems to be what you're doing. I'm impressed by the amount of thought that you've put into this topic.

We all have to make our decisions about what is right and wrong for us personally. Listen to what others are telling you and recognize that they do have a few more years of life experience and may have something to offer - but ultimately your decisions and the subsequent consequences of any actions that you take based on those decisions are yours and yours alone.

While we don't feel that there's anything wrong with watching porn, the concern is that people do get addicted to porn - just as they get addicted to their favorite nightly sitcom or drama show. Television/Movies are highly addictive. Here's something that you may not have thought about...

When you watch TV, your brain quickly goes into a hypnotic state and you become VERY suggestive to what you see on television. That's why the big companies pay so much to advertise on television - everyone who is watching is in a highly suggestive hypnotic state.

This also applies to porn. If you watch a lot of porn you may start to think and feel that this is how sex should be between couples - and it's not. This is not how sex really is anymore than action movies represent real life. Porn is FANTASY sex. Don't forget that. Romantic, passionate sex between two people who love each other is rarely like what you see in porn movies.

If you are going to watch a lot of porn, be very careful not to carry that over into your first and subsequent sexual encounters of your life.

The other concern that I have is whether or not you're 'addicted' to it. Is it something you 'need' to do? Is it something that you do unconsciously and don't know why? If either of these are true, then you should be concerned.

Make sure that if you choose to watch porn that it's a conscious decision and that it doesn't keep you from living a normal, healthy 'real' life.

Hope this helps! Great questions by the way!

[rockabillylove]

i would say its better than you going out any having tons of sex and having the chance to have kids. if i was your mother i wouldnt mind you looking at porn and id make sure your dad wasnt either. i got caught when i was younger for downloading porn and didnt get introuble. but id say theres nothing wrong looking at porn

[ValorNET]

^ LOl. Yeah, make them quake with fear over the other possible outcomes!