Is something wrong with me?

[Chris MX]

Hello everybody. I'm new here. I seriously never thought I'd end up asking random people on the Internet for advice, but really, I just need to ask somebody without the awkwardness of seeing his/her initial reaction.

I'm a 25 year-old guy. I have never had any girlfriends or sexual encounters whatsoever because I'm really not interested at the moment (and apparently neither are the girls around me). I have a job and I'm finishing college and as such my daily routine is full of stress, and I have the idea that trying to maintain a romantic relationship under these circumstances could end up doing more harm than good because my temper could get a little out of control sometimes, so I'm trying to wait as much as possible until I can finally free myself from some of that stress.

Anyway, some friends at college mock me for this, they are constantly "encouraging" me to "get out and get laid" (literally) because it's really "ludicrous" how I'm just busy doing my things and not caring about my romantic and/or sexual needs. I have to admit I've sometimes wondered about that but I'm really not interested right now. My mind is busy in a hell of a lot of other things. Is something really wrong with me or what?

Thanks in advance and thanks to Dan and Jennifer for providing us with this useful place.

[Xero]

There is nothing wrong with you. In fact there are people all the time on here your age, younger, older, other males or females that ask this question all the time.

Just do what you think is right and get your life in line. That is my best advice for anyone who has this though.

It's not wrong, and you are not out of place being a virgin in college ect ect.

[Romp Time Rob]

The world is overpopulated as it is. I encourage your bravery of taking one for the team! Who knows, maybe after college you'll be interested in relationships. I'd say you're doing the right thing. I'm a 25 year old guy as well btw. Women = Time and Money. College students have neither time nor money. That math isn't too hard.

[Chris MX]

Thanks for the great advice and support!

It's been really difficult to be surrounded by people that constantly bother you with the same thing, and the worst thing is that nowadays people like me are more the exception than the rule. Is it so hard not to think about sex and relationships all the time?

Sometimes I DO think about meeting someone and starting a relationship, but as I said, my temper could get out of control sometimes because of all the pressure and stress and I wouldn't want to hurt her in any way, and even less if it is for dumb reasons such as something that happened at work or college. I like to keep things where they belong.

And I do agree about the time and money stuff. I do have a job but that's paying for college and bills and stuff and both work and school take 95% of my time. The rest I just want to spend it relaxing and not thinking about the daily routine, otherwise I might go insane!

Anyway, thanks again for everything and enjoy the weekend!

[slittylicker]

When you're in school, prioritizing is essential.
Stay focused and don't let peer-pressure interfere with what you know is right.