What is "cheating"?

[harobike123]

This goes back to my past, but I've wondered it for a while. I had a girlfriend a while back, she was nice and smart and everything else, and we had a decent relationship going. I went on a trip with some friends one time, and I wound up getting another girl's number, but I wasn't trying, and I didn't even ask for it. I gave the girl a call, and we hung out for a while, and my girlfriend found out. She was jealous of the other girl, but we just hung out and rode my horses for an hour or so.

A few weeks later, I met another girl and got her number, and I did the same sort of thing, and the same thing happened.

What's weird is that I was only looking for someone to hang out with, to expand my circle of friends, but my girlfriend was jealous of the girls, and the girls thought we were dating.

Is it cheating if you don't know/think your cheating?

[Wookie]

If she didn't know about it, it's cheating even if you were just hanging out. What she was mad about was the fact that she had no idea what was happening. She sees you are with this other girl, and thinks your cheating. When if you were up front with her, it wouldn't have been a big deal. Talk to her.

[harobike123]

Thanks for explaining it that way, it makes a bit more sense now. I can't talk to her though, it's been years since we've spoken, and we ended on rocky terms anyways. I'm going to keep this in mind for future relationships.

[Dibiase]

Originally Posted by Wookie

If she didn't know about it, it's cheating even if you were just hanging out. What she was mad about was the fact that she had no idea what was happening. She sees you are with this other girl, and thinks your cheating. When if you were up front with her, it wouldn't have been a big deal. Talk to her.

I Agree

Originally Posted by harobike123

Thanks for explaining it that way, it makes a bit more sense now. I can't talk to her though, it's been years since we've spoken, and we ended on rocky terms anyways. I'm going to keep this in mind for future relationships.

Don't think its over yet, there's always a way to fix this

[Saishuu]

I don't think harobike123 want to get back with her... he just wants advice for the future.

You don't have to tell her what your doing all the time, you can go on walks with other girls its not cheating.

When would it be cheating?

If you started to feel emotions for the other girls, then you need to seriously think about not seeing them again.