I still love my high school sweetheart

[LoneStar1978]

Okay,

I have been married for 16 years with two kids. This past summer I got reacquainted with my high school sweetheart through a classmates website. She lives 900 miles from me and we have been emailing and calling ever since. She is married with three kids. We considered ourselves soul mates and it's funny that we still do. We had a long distance relationship for 8 years after high school. The distance caused problems over 20 years ago, as well as my drug abuse in the early '80s. I've been clean for 26 years and never went back, self rehabilitated.

Time had gotten away from both of us, but she wrote to me back in 1986 telling me she was engaged and asked if we still had something. I new we did, but in fear that I may have already lost her, I never responded. I was a jerk, and I missed out on my soul mate.

Fast forward to now, and I can still tell her everything, just like it was yesterday. It seems we have rekindled our feelings just where we left off. We are slowly getting up to date on ourselves and our emails and phone calls have progressed so much that we can't stop thinking about each other during the day. Keep in mind we are still 900 miles away.

My relationship with my wife is good, but lacks romance and she chooses it that way. I've been through one marriage council and conceded much. I refuse to do that again. I realize the consequences of my actions if I pursue my heart and some people will get hurt, especially children.

My heart yearns for hers and it is becoming unbearable to go on with out her. I can't cut and run. I did that once and won't do it again. I have to be happy too, so if she will accept my back in her life full time, I'm there. Dan and Jennifer say to follow your heart, so should I? Okay, let me have it.

[Saishuu]

How old are your kids? They will hurt whatever age they are, and so will your wife.
But if they are old enough (like independent age) your wife can't loot your pockets as much with parrot & cutlass (and lawyer).

Now you say your relationship with your wife lacks romance and she "chooses" it that way. Well you can't put the blame all on your wife... I used to sell kitchens & customers used to "choose" to buy them off me... you understand what I mean? (there are certain things you can do to make her "choose" to be romantic).

And before getting your hopes up have you got confirmation she'll ditch her family to be with you?

And will you definitely live together with your ex? it won't be another long distance relationship right?

How do you feel about waiting a few more years?

Or can you get your wife to leave you (the better situation?). Don't cut and run dude, use your brains!