How do I have a successful affair?

[spaniard]

Agree with most here that having an affair would be stupid. The vows are what they are, like it or not. A couple of additional thoughts. Are you sure your wife isn't having an affair? Being addicted to online games sounds more like a phase, something she will eventually loose interest in, or at least to the degree that she is doing it now. But she may be using games as an excuse not to be with you.

However, for yourself, I would recommend (as well as getting therapy and the other advice above) is to invest some time in yourself. Read some good books, find a new hobby that you enjoy, take the kids to the park and if your not already the picture of health start working out and getting that 6-pack. Your wife desires the adventure of life and a healthy sex life just as much as you do, even if she appears not to. Happy people, who look good and are having fun are irresistible. Seeing ones spouse be that person may help kick things into gear for her, and realize the life she is missing out on by playing games.

HTH...

[gollyg]

Do not do it.
find ways together to be a couple.
go to councellig
do anything but have the afiar
i went the other way
after 5 years of crap sex once every 2 months and then none 4 a year i had an affair
amazing sex - did not think it was possible to make someoe else feel so good and that felt so right.

My wife found out.
Being hit by a train would have hurt less than the pain i feel by hurting her and destroying my credibility.

It is not worth it. If you love your wife find ways to be happy together.
wish i did. hope we can be again sometime.

best of luck.

[Jasperky]

How to have a successful affair: you don't.
Don't stop reading this. I understand why people suggest you should do something that you don't want to do, but that doesn't mean you should ignore their opinions. I just want to say that.
The way I see it, you could either tell your wife how you feel, try to endure, or, if you're fixed on having an affair, tell your wife that you want to.
Sounds stupid, but if ask your wife whether or not you can, she might either agree, saying sorry or some such thing, say no, or she might realize how much she's 'neglecting' you. I put that in inverted commas because she might have lost her sex drive. The point is, if she feels sorry for you, she might decide to give you what you want.
A final, slightly evil, possibility; don't tell her, but if you know enough about the internet, you can get a computer to access a non-existent server. That way she won't be able to play the game and, if she doesn't play the game for a while (from three days to three weeks), she'll lose the fixation.
Note: if you want to know about the techy side to this comment, just ask. I don't pretend to be an expert but i know a fair bit.

[gollyg]

i didnt talk to the mrs
i cheated
i told her after way too long as i was adicted to the game of sEX.

i am alone - separated from the best friend i ever had (my wife).

Its so not worth it.

[SheWolf]

Tell her you're thinking about cheating. Tell her you love her and don't want to ruin your relationship but you have needs. Ask her if she feels fulfilled by you as well. What needs might you be neglecting for her?

[gollyg]

Hi Shewolfe,

i know about needs.
Have lived with the female equavilent of a premature ejaculator for years.

But whn she does not want i am not going to ask.

If i can meet the needs of another but still desparately want and love my wife the choice is hard.

I need to now work out if she loved me before and if not then there is no hope.

Communication is the key, not just about sex, but love, feelings honesty all

will keep u posted.

[hunnyhunny]

we all know that if you are playing online games you are pretty much exposed to thousands of people playing the same game, and there are possibilities that your wife is having an affair online, if you really want to figure this one, try to join her and show that you are interested with what she was doing, this might help to discover what she was really thinking also it might turn her on.

always be by her side, bear with her if you really love her, if you wanted to break the routine, have a family vacation, look for places where only nature exist, a week or month might bring her back in reality, while on vacation show how much you really care and how much you wanted her back in your life, make her feel special in OUTRAGEOUS ways.