how do i stop cheating on the man i love?

[izzy26]

i need help. i have an amazing boyfriend who i have been going out for 6 months. im really in love. but i keep cheating on him with this guy. im 14. like i really do love my boyfriend. but for some reason i dont know how to stop cheating. my problem is that i cant see my boyfriend everyday. he is not allowed to see me. and when we hang out, I dont have any privacy. we are always with friends. and we have no where to be alone. we have been sexually active but we havent had sex. we do everything else but it. he does to a boy private school and i go to a public school with the guy im cheating on him with. the other guy has fingered me and has made out with me. i really dont know how to stop. i hardly talk to my boyfriend becasue he is not alowed to talk on the phone rightnow. and he said if i were to ever cheat on him he would break up with me. and i reallly do now want to lose him in my life! so what should i do?!!? i really need help. i wanna be a faithful girlfriend to him! so please help me. give me an answere asap pllleasee!!!!
love always,
izzy26

[Tanya in Austria]

I understand that communication problems can ruin a relationship, but you just need to be open and honest with him. If you really need to be sexually active, either tell him this or stop seeing him, because if you keep cheating on him, you're both going to get hurt. I think you need to be completely honest with him even if it means a break up because a relationship built on lies isn't a very good relationship. Hopefully if you stop seeing the other guy and remain completely faithful to this guy, he will forgive you and you guys can try to work at your relationship.

But maybe the other guy is who you really want to be with because he seems to share the same interests and priorities that you do. If the sexual aspect is that important to you, it's probably not a great idea to be with a guy who isn't ready for that yet. I hope you guys can talk it out.

Tanya in Austria