Just wanted to say "Hi" for now.

[CTWI]

I wanted to say that I just found this site and that Dan and Jenn have hit a nerve with me. Reading some of these posts has sent me into a tail-spin of sorts.

To be brief with little details...I'm 42 and a father of a terrific 9 year old boy. I love him very much and becuase of that I have been in a not so stellar marriage for the past 13 years. Don't get me wrong but I do love my wife.

She recently went back to school and planned a trip with her mom related to school. I had my suspicions about her the past few years but could not really nail anything down. The only issue we've had has been spotty intimacy.

This weekend I caught her in a big lie because her mom was home sick and not with her on this trip.

Today I'm looking for a new apartment, but it's been very hard because I'm so attached to my son. I'm very sad, depressed, cry, and feel useless at work. I can only hope I can learn here.

My wife has filed for divorce three times before but always seemed to work it out.

This is the first time that I'll be filing, I just can't do it anymore.

[slittylicker]

If she is being unfaithful, that's definitely grounds.
It is a painful experience to go through.
I'm sorry

[CTWI]

She keeps telling me she doesn't have a boyfriend, but I tell her the point is that she lied and that she's not opoligizing for anything or owning up to it. "I was ther with a gay friend and a couple" Her response. I also found she had purchased sking equipment and went sking last winter instead of going to see her grandmother up north. To bad she used her relatives that way to lie to me.

[Beagle]

Welcome to the forums. I'm sorry it's under such circumstances. I agree; it seems like she's just admitting to what you already know. I think you're making the right decision.

You'll always be your son's father.

[hunnyhunny]

it seems like shes always having these reasons to blind you even though you had figured things out, trust is what holds a strong relationship and without trust both of you will surely suffer..

after trust has been shattered it is hard to bring it back in its original state, so better let her be and have your own life without her, it hurts I know but it will be much painful to bear it forever, like what we always says time heals everything, who knows you might find the right one for you on the other side of the planet..

try to live happy with your kid.