Caught up in bad marriage

[kwally]

I recently have been involved in with a married woman over the past 3 months. She asked her husband to move out of her house about nine months ago because of several infidelity occasions and a lack of connection between the two of them. They dated six years prior to getting married and she has told me the reason she became married was because it just felt like the next step not because of a serious connection. We live in a somewhat small town where you know alot of the same people. Since throwing him out she has said that several people have confronted her about him cheating prior to their marrage as well. She is a very sweet woman and i feel that nine months ago she finnaly built up the courage to just do it.

As for my question. I really do not want to hurt this woman or make it anymore harder on her in life or if she were to get a divorce. Would our relationship hurt her in court if she were to get a divorce? She has put it off so far because of her family friends and religion. I know it has been hard on her already because her husband has recently found out and he and his friends have been hassling her about it. I know we have only been seeing each other for three months, but i really have strong feelings for her and would love to see this relationship progress. I also feel a very strong connection back from her and have no feeling that she still has any desire to go back to her husband. I have told her that she needs to make this decision on her own and for herself, not for her family, friends, church or myself. Do i need to back off alittle bit and let her make a decision or do i continue to see her? either way i will support her decision if she makes it because she feels its the one that will make her happy. Thanks for the help - kwally

[Pvt Gi Jane]

Originally Posted by kwally

I They dated six years prior to getting married and she has told me the reason she became married was because it just felt like the next step not because of a serious connection.

Would our relationship hurt her in court if she were to get a divorce?

Hi Kwally, well Im not a qualified, but I must say, if your lady Friend should tell the wrong people that she got married because it felt like the next step and no because of a serious connection and NOW she want to Divorce him because there is NO connection between them His lawyer is going to make mince meat out of her, cause they're most possible going to say, she got married to him in the first place under false pretences! As for the fact that he might have had affairs before she told him to leave: That could be for her to proof, but on the other side is, the husband could say, he wasnt interreste in his wife anymore because of the fact that he found out that she wasnt honest, actually theres no way at this stage you could really project how this is going to turn out, he also might as well say that his wife most possibly told him to leave, because she possibly had an affair with you for much longer Such a Divorce can ruin a person entire life and many new relationships cant stand this stress.

Good luck with this, hope everything turns out for you guys

[Dan And Jennifer]

The legal issues around her getting a divorce and what the court will care about depend entirely on what state you live in.

You didn't say if she had any kids or not? Also, is there a large estate or pre-nup involved?

I'm not lawyer, but those are the big ones in my book.

As to whether or not you should keep seeing her, that's something that the two of you will have to decide. If you love each other, are committed to each other, and want to be together, then stay together. If it's just one drama after another and she's not ready for a relationship - then give her some space. The important thing is to talk to her and se what she wants and need. The two of you have to respect one another and trust one another - you'll get through this.

I know that divorce is not an easy thing, but I feel that if she wants a divorce, then it'll be better for everyone to just get it over with. The longer you drag it out, the harder it is for everyone involved.

Also, unless these other people are her lawyer - DO NOT listen to them. They may have good intentions, but they are their intentions and can really mess things up for the two of you. Listen to your hearts and do what feels right for the two of you.