In love with her, but don't want to lose my best friend

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I really like this girl, I think I love her... But she’s one of my best friends and I don’t want to tell her about my feelings because I’m afraid that I will lose my friend.

I told her friend about my feelings and I think she told her. Since then she’s gone all weird with me and doesn’t go out with me anymore. She always says that she’s busy or something.

What should I do? Please help.

[Dan And Jennifer]

Ouch! OK, you may have to chalk this one up to a lesson learned the hard way.

It sounds like this already got weird, and there may be no recovery.

Never, ever, ever, ever talk about a girl to her friend. She (the friend) may well twist it, turn it, mash it, and "adjust" the facts, so much will "get lost in the translation"... all depending on how much the friend likes YOU. And more often than not, you'll be down one friend.

Frankly, you're almost always better off talking TO the person you have feelings for... not your friends, not her friends. Keep it between the two of you.

[jjdubbie]

yes it's normal to love a friend.
but it's also normal to like a best friend alot

the fact that you didn't man up and tell to your best friend that you like her
just made it worse because

a friend's a friend
but a best friend is like the stars and the moon that brightly shine in the night sky

if she's a real friend, she'll understand.

this of course is just MY opinion
hope this helps
-jjdubbie

[FemaleOrgasm]

The friend category in the first place. Were you acting like one of her girlfriends? Take a look at the guys she's attracted to and then absorb their useful traits and reject their useless ones.