girls - how do i get confidence?

[Hot Alpha Female]

Confidence is the ability to act in spite of fear. Or is that the definition of courage? hehe

Well you get my point. You see the reason why we would not feel confident is because in some respect we feel powerless to the outcome of something.

If someone is confident, that means that they KNOW what outcome they are set out to achieve and they 100% believe that they can attain it.

Now I know you are asking this in relationship to asking out girls.

I would say the first step in overcoming this is to actually be more disciplined in building your own self esteem.

How do you do that? By making sure that each and every day you are making small wins.

What is an example of this?

Say for instance you wanted to be more confident with approaching women.

So on the first day to improve yourself esteem you say to yourself that when you are out in public you are going to strike up a random conversation with someone around you. They can be male or female, it can be someone you meet on the bus, who serves you at a restaurant, or someone standing there while you wait in line for something.

Now it is important to build your self esteem not on the results but on taking the actual action.

So you should commend yourself on .. actually getting out there and talking to a stranger .. and no base ur self worth .. on what actually happens when you talk to that stranger (if it was a good or bad interaction).

Then from there, you starts to make these small daily personal growth challenges bigger and bigger, and before you know it you are doing things that you never ever thought you could do or achieve.

Its a little late over here, so hopefully that makes sense =)

[cherub]

Originally Posted by Brett

i find it hard to belive in myself coz it fear of rejection and also i don,t think im good enough for a woman

Feel the fear, but face it. After all, courage (and confidence) is not the absence of fear, but the conquest of it.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Here's a video to start you off on EFT:

[Sachiel]

I can tell you the things that attract a girl, because building your atractiveness, also brings along more girls and at the same time that builds your confidence - sorted. Remember to always smile, that will make you appear confident and really approachable. Think to yourself that you are the greatest, that you are the most drop dead gorgeous guy on earth, and that any girl who would have you is the luckiest girl on the planet. It really has nothing to do with your looks, its all gotta do with how you compose yourself. Also the most important thing is to say whatever comes to your mind. Speak what you think. Obviously dont say stupid things that will get you in trouble, but im sure you get my drift. Ignore your heart pounding manically, just tell yourself it's you lucky day and nothing's going to go wrong. Try it out once. Have a day where you make yourself believe that whatever you say or do will turn out well. Afterall, how will you know unless you try? Also, if you really do care about your looks (though im sure your not ugly) wear aftershave, because there's proven statistics that it makes you some high percentage more attractive. Act understanding, if a girl seems upset, go and ask her what's wrong. girls love this. Good luck!