bad boys, good or BAD?

[tasha533]

ok so theres this guy...and i really like him when i am around him my heart flutters like a butterfly and when i am not with him my heart hurts like he took a chunk out it it.
i never had this feeling before and since he IS A BAD BOY i dont know if i can trust him with me....should we date and put our amazing friendship in danger
or just stay friendly friends???????

[The Guitar Man]

alright, i see, Not all bad boys are Bad. They just act tough to hide an inner soft spot. but i see that he is your friend, and yes that does cause a risk of hurting or destroying your friendship. All i can say to you is you can take the risk and love him as your boyfriend, (thats when you learn more about the guy) or you can flirt and just remain friends. It's a tough choice, but thats all i can say.

[Denilson]

...is nothing but trouble.

But I can understand why your heart flutters for him, Tasha. See my post on the 'Nice Guys Finish Last' thread for details.

I'm not telling you what to do. But true Bad Boys are called that for a reason. He knows it gets him the results he wants with women. Which is usually a few tumbles in the hay, after which he notches his belt and moves on.

And forget about tying to somehow 'change' or reform a true Bad Boy. This is one of the half dozen or so stupidest thoughts ever formed by the human mind. The Bad Boy has no incentive to change. He takes what he wants without a care in the world. Besides, if you are truly attracted to his badness, changing him into a Nice Guy is only going to kill that attraction.

If, OTOH, he is a faux Bad Boy, one who walks the walk but for the most part treats you well, go for it. In that circumstance it is worth the risk, Because if you have a guy who is a Nice Guy at heart but makes yours flutter anyway, you've got yourself a keeper.

Good luck!