body language

[dave in dakota maryland]

i have questions about lbody language. i know the basics now but recently ive seen repeatable situations around me that i would like to know what they mean. for one the girl is in class and she always leans back in her chair like shes stretching but whilee she does it she is playing with her hair and presnting her brests in a very attractive way. kinda like she wants to show of her body. i want to know if this is flirting or not cuz i see girls do it all the time. and it seems unneccesary to be doing ti that much. also what does it mean when a girl makes a obvious effort to look at the ground when she passes you in the hall. is this a sign of shyness toward me because she likes me or is she uninterested. i mean i am bad at body language and she seems nervouse to me i just wanted to hear a experts adivce. thank you

[modernsavage]

Hi Dave,

Some good questions and important too, as body language is a fundamental aspect of attraction.

• If a girl is playing with her hair while talking to you or looking at you then that is an indicator of interest.
  
• If she is puffing out her chest and "displaying" herself and she is pointed in your direction then that is an indicator of interest.
  
• If she makes eye contact with you, then breaks it away, then that could also be an indicator of interest and possibly means that she is shy as well.

Now, be careful how you interpret these, as it could be that she is "displaying" herself not for you in particular but to garner general attention from all males. You'll know if body language is intended for you if her body is pointed towards you or if she is consistently looks at you.

Hope that helps.

[dave in dakota maryland]

well actual if she is doing this to flirt i know it is dirrected to me even if she is not pointed in my direction. you see we are in a college course together and there is about 18 people in it and there are only two guys in it counting me, and the other one sits behind her and is out of her vision. she is to the side of me and kinda ahead of me but i am in her vision easily. shes facing foward when she does it but she seems to be "presenting herself" alot. the whole story actualy is that i was in her group with her and she appeared to be kinda shy infront of me even thought i noticed she didnt seem shy before. she does play with her hair frequently and exposes her neck to me thats why i feel she may be flirting i just wasnt sure with this 'Presnting thing". do you think her presenting herself is intended to flirt. or just normal. because if its normal she is doing it more then necesary it seems, but if it is to flirt then it must be for me. so do you think it is flirting or just harmless.