My Boyfriend Wants To Have Sex Before Marriage But I’m Not Sure. Is It Really Okay?

[Dan And Jennifer]

Sex before marriage. It’s a tough topic that many people feel very passionate about, but not everyone is passionate about it for the same reasons.  Many people believe that sex before marriage is wrong or immoral and others believe that it’s not an issue.  While there may never be a universal agreement on whether [...]

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[Lady B]

It is up to you to decide whether or not to have sex with your boyfriend. You only have to do it when you feel ready, do not worry about how others view premarital sex, it is very personal. Social rules are social rules, they might be right or might be wrong, it is up to you to decide if you want to stick to them or not. If you decide to do it, it is your body and your decision, so do not worry about what people might be saying, everyone has the right to chose where and when to start having sex. Are your insicurities related to the social rule that sex must happen only inside marriage? Or are you just not ready? Or is it a trust issue? Maybe you don't trust your boyfriend enough, and in that case you must not have sex at all. Maybe you feel he is not the right person!
In my opinion sex before marriage is not wrong in itself, because you cannot marry someone if you don't know how they are in bed. Immagine sharing your life with someone you are not sexually compatible with. In my opinion if you are having insicurities you should wait, when you find the right person you'll know! good luck

[Garnet Anne]

I'm fairly certain this is the general consensus (so far at least): It is up to the individual. Your comfort level determines if it is "ok" or not.

Socially (at least in western culture) is it ok? Yes, totally. In fact it is quite rare people go to their marriage beds as virgins.
However, some people have been raised in an environment where such a thing is frowned upon or labeled "wrong".

There is really no "wrong" answer to this, it depends upon the individual, their needs and when they feel ready.
Wait until marriage or don't, its really up to the individual, but what I always think of is "what if you never get married?" at what age is it alright to drop the "no sex before marriage" thing?

I'm personally not waiting for marriage, but I'm not going to jump in bed with the first guy that comes along (or I would have done that a long time ago).

Just don't let a person or culture or belief system dictate what is right for you.

[hunnyhunny]

Pre marital sex is fine as long as both of them are fully aware and are willing to face the consequences that such act may incur. Otherwise, don't. Because if you keep wading then you'll surely drown.

[willywonka]

Pre-marital sex is always a mutual preference, and a man should respect the adamant decision that his partner has. Self-pleasuring is a good way to hold the horses, just of course not to the extent of addictive, obsessive masturbation.