I really like this girl but dont know if she likes me or how to ask her out or anything! please help

[GreenTea]

hey, I finished grade 12 and I went back for another year. There is a girl (gr.11) in my class(11/12 split drama) that I really like..i never felt this way before but I dont know if she has any interest in me at all. Second day of class, we did short skits and teacher chose partners and I was partnered up with her and it was great for the moments it lasted. Whenever we both see eachother in the hall she always says hi first and I say hey back. Sometimes, she just does like a little pinch/touch on my forehand wen she says hi. But sometimes I noticed that I was sitting in the caf at the table and then I saw her pass by me..I dont know if she didnt see me or not or just didnt want to say hi..i really dont know. I am always to shy, and never know what to talk about, one time I was goin to soccer practice through the halls and she was at her locker and she saw me and did this weird surprised happy scream cause I was dressed down before school was over and we all wore uniforms, I being an idiot just kept walking and then shes like "fine, bye"..so I go to her locker and am like "why you saying bye"..(IM TELLING YOU..I ALWAYS SAY THE WRONG THINGS) after that short moment I asked her what shes doin on the weekend since its friday and she said "nothing..mostly working" and im like "that sucks" then im just like "i g2g to practice, talk to ya later" and she said bye..i did this cause I paniced and had nothing to talk about. I am always first in the drama room and when she comes in she always says hi to me and I say hi back..we sometimes talk a bit during class and stuff and I always feel a vibe between us but I cant tell if its just me. my best friends gf is her friend and I talked to her and told her how I felt..I asked her if she could help me but she doesnt know how, she asked if I wanted her to go ask her if she likes me..i said no for now cause that would be weird...ive never had a GF before or even kissed a girl cause I was a gamer all my life but I quit games like 2 months ago and am social now. The other day I did a very strong act in drama where I actually tried for the first time and everyone laughed (it was suppose to funny) and I was the strongest performer and after it I looked at her and she told me that I was really good and really funny. Later that day, I was walking the halls and we saw eachother..I said hey, she said I was really good today..and im just like "thanks, I was ok" in a joking tone. The next day I wore my new lacoste shoes and she didnt say anything but later on when I was walking home talking with her friend thats trying to help me..she told me that she told her in the halls after they saw me that she really liked my shoes and they were nice and told her about my performance in drama. I have no idea if she wants to be friends only or not..I always walk out with her in drama class but never know what to say cause I think too much. Today I found out that she is a big flirter with guys so this just makes it harder on me. Im so confused. Theres a trip coming up where we will have 2 hours to do w/e we want before we watch the play..and I plan to chill with her or atleast try to but other than that..i have no idea what to do.

What should I do? How can I tell if she likes me a bit or not? Does she just want to be friends? Did I blow my chance? What should her friend do to help me?

[modernsavage]

GreenTea,

She likes you. Through her various flirting she has given out all the right indicators of interest:

• touching/pinching on the arm
• surprised reaction to seeing you
• all kinds of compliments
• impressed with your drama/acting

I understand that she is naturally flirty with other guys, however, I think you actually have a really good shot here. Don't let the fact that she flirts with other guys discourage you, because it could mean that she simply likes a handful of guys (including you) and is simply waiting for one of them to grow some balls and ask her out.

You have one distinct advantage over everyone else. You're in drama class, which is akin to acting, correct? Guys who take up acting get chicks! If you read interviews with all the famous actors, they all started off in high school and one of the main reasons was because they could get more girls than the jock football players.

So, clearly there is some pre-selection going on here. She notices that you are good at acting and have some talent. Thus, despite any flaws you may have now, she notices that you will be a stud in the future and this is why she is flirting with you.

So, what to do?

You need to start flirting back with her. Try start talking with her more. Start teasing her, etc. It may be tough at first, but keep at and it will gradually get easier and she will notice too.

As for her friend, chances are she already blew your cover and told her that you like her. This is actually a good thing. Because at least now she knows you like her and if she continues to flirt with you, then this only confirms that she likes you too.

Other than that, I'd say keep up with the drama stuff if you really like it. Having a passion in something is probably the most attractive thing you can do in life.

Hope that helps and let us know how it goes.

[GreenTea]

the teasing part and stuff..I really never know what to say..ive been doing better the past week..like caring less and less what I say and starting to be more like myself..cause around my friends and stuff they all say im hilarious and a joker cause I usually am but when im around her i act very shy.

the funny thing about the drama and sports thing is that I am a sports freak :P I am a starter on the basketball team, tennis team, soccer team, squash team, badminton team, baseball team. I play just about all sports. Drama is something I enjoy but I would feel embarassed doing it infront of the school..i jus do it infront of drama class cause theres only a couple normal people and like 6 of them are real time weirdos LOL.

When it comes to sports, I am too confident..like cocky confident cause I really hate losing and rarely lose. When it comes to girls, lol..i cant describe it..im just a shy person. I found out that she recently over the summer broke up with a guy she really liked because he cheated on her.

I dont think my best friends GF told her I like her..but should I tell her to say like "I think "insert name" likes you" or something? What exactly should I do?

[GreenTea]

oh and also, shes always nice and friendly and wants to talk during school in RL but on the internet she will come on lke 5 minutes per day and in that 5 minutes i try talking to her and we talk for like 3 minutes and she jus leaves randomly.

[jojo]

Im Sorry to say this or am I, but anyway when you told her friend about how you liked her well not only does the girl you like know you like her but about 4 or 5 of her friends know you like her. Or they will know in the very near future. I think your good.

look at my thread: its called does she like me, under Flirting. tell me what u think. bye and good luck.

[modernsavage]

GreenTea,

I think you are in much better shape with this girl than you think you are. You are over analyzing the situation, which will only cause you to be more shy around her.

I think perhaps you need to stop thinking when you around her, treat her like one of your guy buddies and just mess around, tell your usual jokes, say dumb things... all that stuff. Do you analyze what you are going to say to your basketball team mates prior to practice? No, of course not, you just show up, joke around a bit, then get down to business.

Also, you are a pretty well rounded guy. You have all these sports going on, the drama class thing, a good social group. Seriously man, there's no reason for this girl not to go for you.

I wouldn't worry about the talking on the internet thing, there could be any number of reasons for that. Again, it's all just over analyzing.

I'd say, continue working on the flirting. I can't tell you exactly what to say, because when you say it, it'd be out of context and probably be weird. The flirting and teasing has to mesh with your own personality and frame. However, the general advice on flirting in the seduction community is to simply treat her as if she were your bratty little sister.

Of course, you're going to have to eventually bite the bullet and ask her out. I'm sorry, but there isn't much way around this, unless she asks you first, but don't even consider this an option because the likelihood is akin to winning the lottery.

Try seeing if she wants to "hang out." Go to the football game with her or bowling or to a party. The trick to this is to already plan on doing that particular thing before you invite her along. So it'd go something like this:

"hey whats up? bla bla bla.... me and the gang were planning on going bowling this Friday, you should come along and hangout."

Easy as pie. This gives you more time to interact with her, flirt, tease, create attraction, etc. Once you feel you have some good rapport (you have great conversations) with her than just blurt it out, "we should go out together." Taking the risk, regardless of the outcome will be one of the best things you ever did in terms of women.

So to sum it all up, lets go back over the key points:

• Stop thinking/analyzing
• Continue flirting, teasing, treating her like bratty little sister
• Plan to do something, then do the hangout thing
• Repeat first three steps a few times
• Bite the bullet and ask her out

There's your action plan, now take action

Respect,

[GreenTea]

thanks, i will definitely let you know how things go.

[GreenTea]

ok so today, in drama class..we said the usual hi to eachother and when I came in, I sat next to her and we talked about useless crap..then the awkward silence..cause i didnt know what to say lol. she always laughs around me, and when I was sitting down after our scripts..she came and sat beside me really close..we had very small talk but yet again i had nothing to say lol. than after i did my script..she was laughing cause of my bad accent and there was a small spot beside her and shes like "you can sit here"...see i know these are all good signs..BUT, how do I ask her out..like when, how, where????? man, i need help.

[GreenTea]

ok so im gunna ask her tomorrow..what should i say? should i say "hey (name) what are you doin this weekend?" she'll say w/e and ill say "i was wondering if I can take you out to dinner" or "i was wondering if you want to hang out, get some coffee" or "do you wanna hang out?" or "wanna get some lunch" or "i thinking maybe you would like to go see a movie and have dinner with me"

what should i say????

[modernsavage]

Originally Posted by GreenTea

ok so im gunna ask her tomorrow..what should i say? should i say "hey (name) what are you doin this weekend?" she'll say w/e and ill say "i was wondering if I can take you out to dinner" or "i was wondering if you want to hang out, get some coffee" or "do you wanna hang out?" or "wanna get some lunch" or "i thinking maybe you would like to go see a movie and have dinner with me"

what should i say????

I think any variation of "Do you wanna hang out?" will work. If you actually have somewhere to go in mind, then that's even better. Here's a good example:

You: hey you doing anything fun this weekend?

Her: bla bla bla

You: Hmm, well, that doesn't sound as fun as hanging out with me and getting ice cream cones at [wherever]. So are you in?

Her: Yea, definitely that'd be fun (or something like this)


There you go. The place you chose should be something simple like coffee, getting ice cream or a taking a walk somewhere.

I would avoid doing the movie and dinner thing, that's way too much right off the bat. Just keep things nice and simple.