homecoming dance

[The KLash]

hey, im new around this place and my confidence has boosted 95%. but my dating chance are not.

the homecoming dance is coming up, and im trying to get a date for it. but all of the girls i asked aren't single.

so, i made friends with a guy who knows EVERYBODY in the entire school. i asked him to help me find any single girls in the school a week ago and he has a list which he didn't reveal to me yet.

i've been wondering, is it a wise choice to have a friend to help find girls? or is that a mistake to avoid?

[Rick from El Paso]

The only thing that I see wrong with this idea is that your new friend might not know what you personally like in a girl. and whoever he has on the list there is a chance that you might not like their personality.

So it would be like a blind date really. So try not to be in such a rush because there are plenty of other oppertunites for you to have a date not just homecoming. how about prom?

Or you can just go with a few friends and maybe you will meet someone you like who isn't taken that is what I am going to do for my homecoming dance. But ultimately its your choice so all I can say is good luck and I wish you the best.

[BrassPlayer4Life]

For instance, if you've known the guy for about two weeks, I wouldn't trust him to much because he might just rip you off, but if you've known him for say about a month, and you've heard pretty good things about the guy, I'd trust him. It's really all up to you. I'd say if you are just desperate to have a date, trust him. If you realize you don't need a date, don't worry about it, especially if you're a freshman. I didn't have a date when I was a freshman, but now that I'm a sophomore, I think I'm ready to have a date now that I've matured a little more and feel more responsible. So ask around other people at your school to find out what this guy is like, and if he sounds like a good guy, go with his plan. Another thing, your situation sort of sounds like a blind date to me. You don't even know the person you're going to go with, and you might not have the same interests, so it might not work out. It's still worth a try though. Like what the other commenter said, "you can just go with a few friends and maybe you will meet someone you like who isn't taken that is what I am going to do for my homecoming dance". You don't need a date to have a great time. Just go and have fun. The choice is your's though, good luck, and I hope you have a great time.

[Dan And Jennifer]

Hi KLash,

I think a huge think for you would be to get comfortable around girls, start meeting girls and get comfortable around them. That will really build your confidence.

Once you know some girls and are comfortable being around them and interacting with them - and truly understand that they're just real people just like you - you'll be ready to go out with girls - more or less any girls you're interested in.

Putting your faith into this one guy to get you hooked up with a girl really misses the point in my opinion. Your whole life you're going to have to find your own relationships and make your own connections. Sure friends may introduce you, but don't count on someone (especially a new "friend" you don't really know) to solve the problem for you.

I know this is more of a long term answer than a solution to your short term dance question, but I think you'll end up with a lot more success this way and you'll be addressing the core underlying issue.

Good luck, let us know how it goes!!
Dan