Why does he keep texting me?

[rainbowsnbutterflies]

First of all I just want to say that I love watching the DanandJenn videos on Youtube, they always give such great advice.

My question has to do with the first guy I've ever dated. We met at a club and felt instantly attracted to each other. He asked for my number and I gave it to him. He soon called back to set up a date. I was super excited and we went out for dinner. But, he totally treated me like a friend, he didn't seem attracted to me anymore!
I was crushed, but tried to play along and be polite, but really all I wanted to do was leave. I felt it was very rude of him to show such great interest at the club (we kissed each other on the cheek) and then totally blow me off on the date. He was effectively sending me mixed signals.

After it was over I decided to just forget about him, but he called back to apologize and said that he was nervous and that's why he had behaved akwardly, and wanted us to meet again. I felt hopeful and agreed to meet for a night of dancing at a a different club, but it turns out he was two hours late!

I was angry and left soon after he arrived, before I even saw him. (I had to call to find out where he was). The next day he called and I let him know I was not going to put up with his fickle behavior and just leave it at that. That was almost eight months ago.

Now, even today, I received two text messages from him asking me how I'm doing, and he has been sending them frequently and persistently even though I NEVER reply. He asked if we could be friends, and I said no, I wanted a romantic relationship NOT a friendship.

I absolutely want nothing to do with him, that's for sure. But, why is he still bugging me? I don't understand his thinking at all, perhaps someone can help me with this.

If he really wanted me he should have let me know!!!

[Rick from El Paso]

honestly this guy sounds a little messed up in the head. If it has been 8 months and he hasn't found someone else then that looks weird even when you said you don't want talk to him. It would be better to just change your number so he doesn't bug you anymore because it seems like he could be dangerous do you know what I mean? And to answer your other problem no I don't know how he thinks because I'am mentally sain and so are my friends hope that helped and good luck with this

[lisaq]

Big red flags say this guy is emotionally unavailable and your gut is right. He's bad news.

He's texting because that's what these guys do...they blow hot and cold. Hot to reel you in, cold after you're there. Chances are if you respond, you'll get the same treatment you did before. It's worked for him before or he wouldn't be doing it.

Whatever you do, don't respond. Even if you text back to say you're not interested, he'll see it as a sign of interest. No contact is the only way to go. Completely ignore him. His texts may drive you crazy but eventually he'll get that you're not a girl he can jerk around.

Bottom line, he doesn't want you. If he did, he wouldn't be behaving like an assclown.

[jjdubbie]

well after 8 months and then he texts you? i think that's kinda sad
i would understand if he texted you after what happened but 8 months is too much of a time gap. if he keeps bugging you, so be it. not replying back is playing hard to get and i'm pretty sure alotta guys know that not answering a text msg makes them like you more.
some guys have never experienced a date or perhaps even a relationship, i can understand why he acted strange the first date, because he's not been in one before
him being 2 hours late is just being an ass.
and now he's texting you to apologize for being a dick. yes he's been a dick and you have every single right to ignore his texts, but looking at it from a point of view of a guy who's experienced it, i'm pretty sure he has feelings too. and if you think that it's leading him on, i'm definate that he just wants to be friends with you. and you don't want his friendship? that's totally fine but just remember that both your feelings are important because both of you are human beings.
this is just my opinion

-jjdubbie

[FemaleOrgasm]

They are extremely selfish and only interested in satisfying their own needs. If he sends another text, tell him not to text you.