How should I ask her out?

[BrassPlayer4Life]

Okay everyone. I finally think that the girl I like likes me back as stated in my previous thread: Does she like me?. Okay, so now that I've gone through all of that (finally ), now here's my biggest question: How should I ask her out?

This week at all would not really be too good (we have WKCE testing on Tuesday-Thrusday) so I don't think it'd be a good idea to ask her out this week. After the testing (the week after), we have nothing, no sports, no activities, no nothing at all planned at our school, so we should be pretty free with time. I have no idea whatsoever on how to ask a girl to be my girlfriend (I've never done anything like this before in my life) and I really DO NOT want to send her a note because I think it's really wimpy and it shows I don't have confidence in asking her. We've never gone out on a date before or anything (with anyone), but I'd rather ask her be my girlfriend rather than go somehwere and ask her. I could ask her during school too since I know every Monday morning her and I are alone for about 10 mintes so that's a good window of time I think. I guess what I'm asking is should I ask her to be my girlfriend first or ask her to go out with me somehwere like the mall and then ask her to be my girlfriend.

Any thoughts in how I should ask her are welcome.

You may look at my other thread if you need to find out some more information and send your replies there if you'd like (I'll check). Thank you for your time.

[ooze]

Ok, dont ask her out yet but ask her to do some after school activities. Not in school after school activities but like to the movies, restaurant or anything fun that you both can enjoy. Like a date or if you wanna call that, dress up nice, just be you. And if she wants to, pick her up if you are able to drive, if not, ask you're parents to drop you two off where ever you're going to. Dont ask her like (wanna go out on a date?) but like (wanna go out to the movies with me?) and hopefully if yes, you can take her somewhere els after like to eat, fair, bowling, etc, whatever is good to go and fun for her interest. At this point, you both can get to know eachother more and more, and be able to talk about stuff that you ussualy dont talk in school. Remember asking a girl to be you're girlfriend isnt a subject you want to jump on to, as much as you want to, but for the best, be patient. And i know for sure that you will notice something about her that she do,say,act,ect that you wont in school. So get to know her outside of school and remember to just be you're self. Guys choke in a date not knowing what to do,say,act,etc during the date unless they planed something.

Good luck!

[BrassPlayer4Life]

Thanks ooze. That is amazingly helpful advice for not only me, but for everyone! I'll just ask her to go to the movies, but it'll be casual instead of more formal and dressed up since after all, it would be our first time "going out" together.

How does this sound for asking her? (there's a yes and no):
"Hey (person's name).
On Friday there's this movie that's suppossed to be really good it's called: (movie title). Afterwards we could go bowling or get a bite to eat if you'd like. I promise it'll be a really great time! (Smile) How would you like to go with me?"
(If she says yes I'll say,)
"Great! (Smile) Would you like my father to give us a ride there or would you like to meet up at the front doors say about 20 minutes before it begins at (whatever time)?" (Then finish it up from there asking her for her number [I'll need some paper and a pen! ], ect.)
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"Hey (person's name).
On Friday there's this movie that's suppossed to be really good it's called: (movie title). Afterwards we could go bowling or get a bite to eat if you'd like. I promise it'll be a really great time! (Smile) How would you like to go with me?"
(If she says no I'll say,)
"Oh well, that's okay; maybe some other time." (Then start another conversation about something else, just shake it off, and take the rejection.)

Do those sound good for asking her?

The only problem I have asking her to go to the movies with me is what if she says she's already seen the movie before? Is that a rejection or should I ask if she'd like to go to another one that is a little newer in release? Or even (a little bolder), should I ask her what movie she hasn't seen before if she's already seen the one I mentioned?

Just a little help with that problem and I'll be all set and ready to go.

Thanks A LOT for your help ooze!!!

[ooze]

Yea man, all that sounds great!. Just be casual, be you're self, dont promise her cause anything can happend, not saying that it will but for safety reasons. And also go to a movie thats is new but also both of you can enjoy, exp: my girlfriend ask me to go watch the new sex and the city movie, iwas like NOOOO!!!, but the movie turned out way diffrent then what i thought it would be, after all it is a chickflick, so i found it funny in a guys view, not saying i want to watch it again. Anyway what im trying to say is dont pick a "this is a guy movie only" type movies. Just something new and fun for both genders.


Good luck!

[BrassPlayer4Life]

All right, instead of saying, "I promise it'll be a great time" I'll say, "It should be a great time."

I know what you mean when saying go to a movie you both will enjoy. Basically we should go to something that is a comedy because it should make us laugh and be in a good mood for a while, plus it's something that we can try to "reinact" later too, so that should make a good conversation for us. I'll see what movies are out there that are newer in release.

Thanks a lot!