I just don't understand......

[Preacher]

Let me just start off by saying that I have no problems talking to girls. I have several friends that are girls who I talk to on a daily basis.But when it comes to asking girls out, I'm very shy....

I am sixteen years old and have never had a girlfriend. I have never even taken a girl on a date. When I look around myself, I always see my friends are always in a relationship with someone. They all look so happy, and not a day goes by that I don't wish that I could be that happy......even if it only lasted a little while. I know that I seem a bit young to be thinking this way, but being as lonely as I am...just isn't fun anymore... To be truthful...it never was.

I'm at a loss as to what I should do. I'm friends with every girl I know. And time and time again, I have been turned down for the same reason. I'm not their type. I just don't understand what they want... I have even gone as far as to ask several of my lady friends why they aren't attracted to me. A lot have told me the same things:

1. I am to old fashioned (or) They regard me as a father figure.
2. The way I dress. (I wear my pants ABOVE my waist-line, And I kinda like more formal clothes, Suites and the like.....)

Now don't get me wrong, I know that I'm different and I'm proud of that. And people admire me for my unique-ness. But when it comes down to dating, it's the largest drawback.

I am a great guy, people have told me this countless times. I'm a gentleman, probably the last of my kind. I have good moral ethics, I have never pressured anyone to do anything, and I'm a shoulder to anyone who needs to lean. And I am......fairly good-looking.......I also don't believe in sex outside of marriage (I don't hold anything against anyone who does).

Just tell me what's wrong with me.......and if you can, tell me how I can fix it....That's all I ask.
Thank you,

Travis.

[modernsavage]

Hi Travis,

Though it may seem that you have a unique situation, however it is not much different than a lot of guys your age. I was the same way in high school through college, friends with every girl but no girl friends. It's definitely frustrating, I know. Though I must say, you're fashion is certainly different than most your age. You are 16 and wearing suits??? Not that it's bad, it's good because it's unique, the problem is this:

They regard me as a father figure.

Because you're such a gentleman, a shoulder to lean on and all that, you are not being perceived as a sexual being. Even if you don't believe in pre-marital sex, you can still show that you are interested in girls in more than a friend capacity and not a so called father figure.

There is a great quote by a stripper friend of mine that goes like this:

“The only thing women hate more than being viewed as a sexual object….is NOT being viewed as a sexual object.”

Think about it

[Beagle]

Matt: That is a great quote. I'm going to use that.